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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 126

Soooo proud of you! How was it that you didn't know before, though? T. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 12 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 189 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $42.72 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9

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$17,678.40

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Days: 449 Hours: 9

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3683

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44,196

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

I agree Martha. I know I am early in my quit. But I already realize how selfish I was being as a smoker. Even though I know it was the addiction, I feel ashamed of masking my emotions & not facing them head on. I feel ashamed of putting other people's health at risk. I feel ashamed of wasting my money on an addiction ... I have children for goodness sake. I feel ashamed of not having enough self control & ignoring all the dangers of smoking. In my quit I am forgiving myself. I am putting down the baggage and moving forward. I am embracing the fact that there is pain in life instead of avoiding it or being scared of it. I am looking toward life difficulties in a positive light as it is in those times that I will grow. I am glad that I am feeling better day after day and that I am not exposing my children or anyone else to the health hazards of second hand smoke. Each day I don't smoke it builds my self confidence knowing that my self control is getting stronger and that I am setting a much better example to my kids. Now granted I do not think I was some horrible person as a smoker. Nor do I think other smokers are horrible people. But imo all addicts/smokers share some very selfish & immature characteristics. I am glad that I am realizing what those characteristics are so I can rid myself of them along with the addiction. Take what you like and leave the rest. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 18 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 555 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $72 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19

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$55,179.60

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Days: 6083 Hours: 10

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45983

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137,949

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

I do not think I will be able to be around people that smoke anymore, I don't know. I already find myself not calling the few friends I have that smoke. I am not consciously doing this, it is just something that is sort of happening. I do not think they are bad people because they smoke, but I don't want to be around the smoke anymore. A smoker friend came over the other day. She gave me a hug and she stunk. I couldn't help think to myself ... omg I use to smell like that. It was gross. My quit is very important to me. I have to love myself more. If staying away from smoke and smokers helps me in my quit. I don't what else to say about that. My husband says that I can't be like that. He says I can't be so judgmental. I told him it has nothing to do with me judging them. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with me. I do not think there is anything wrong with seeking out a non-smoker. I am so glad my husband and I quit together. I honestly don't know if I would want to hug or kiss him anymore if he smoked and I didn't. I find the smell to be so repulsive now. Can't help it, I just do. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 17 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 529 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $68 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10

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$55,179.60

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Days: 6083 Hours: 10

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45983

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137,949

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1070

That is your right! You may miss someone of worthiness but if that is a deal breaker than that is your choice! I only say this because I know I am a good person and I know many o good people who smoke... With your new life comes new rules/standards...embrace them! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 14 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 295 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $63 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 893

I agree Nascar, I think I am a good caring person worthy of others company and I also think that I was before. But we all have our own selection criteria be it smoking, looks, wealth, profession......whatever, that is our choice!

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5195

Very reasonable indeed! I cannot stand to be around the smoke at all now. Kind of makes my stomach turn. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 332 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,652 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1162 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 29 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1073

If I fell in love with someone who happened to smoke, I would learn to deal with it (while encouraging them to quit, of course! :eg: ) BUT, if starting out I could set the criteria to include no smoking...you bet your bippy I would! Yes, you're being picky...and you have every right to be! Good luck Bubba! :) [color=Purple]~lbugg~[/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 438 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 23,247 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2890.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 42 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7

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$56,677.50

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Days: 1002 Hours: 21

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7557

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188,925

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1151

This might raise some eyebrows but... There are a lot of other things that smoking says about a person. It is one of the most selfish acts a person can commit. They have a deeply engrained pattern of immediate gradification. They do not care enough for their own longevity or health to stop a willful act. They mask their feelings and emotions behind their smoking. It is a literal block between themselves and the world. These are things I can only say now after a whole host of self-discovery through the quitting journey. Pick away Lindsey... [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 663 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 13,269 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2983.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 49 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35

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$40,670.50

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Days: 710 Hours: 15

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6257

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81,341

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 407

My dear and sorrowly missed spouse of 43 years has been in Heaven for 11 months now. So you ask...what has that got to do with this site? I'll tell you what. I joined a site that deals in Match Making. Part of the search parameters is that you can determine ones smoking status. Now that I am so picky about smoking, I find that I will not even consider communicating with anyone who admits they smoke tobacco. Am I being picky? You damned well right I am. I have earned the right to a smog free home and will not consider anyone in it that might contaminate it with second hand smoke. Imagine waking up in the morning and getting a wift of that smokers breath. Is that to much information? Am I being reasonable? Lindsey [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/10/2001 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1722 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 103,355 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $17220 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 355 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49

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$124,154.10

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Days: 7791 Hours: 13

Minutes: 2 Seconds: 55

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45983

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1,839,320

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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 407

TXsT, if I understand your question... "Match" is a site devoted to world wide match making. It is not as ridiculous as some think (my daugthers for sure). Part of that profiling of ones self is that you fill out a questionaire and from that someone can determine what your habits are. Imagine that we became interested in someone and they concealed that they smoked until they smiled and you saw those yellow teeth. As you came closer you smelled that bear's breath. As you started to hug her/his neck, you threw up on them. Just a little joke. Lindsey

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$124,154.10

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Days: 7791 Hours: 13

Minutes: 2 Seconds: 55

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45983

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1,839,320

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