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I am so sorry about the lose of your mother and how you have been feeling lately. I think anyone would be struggling emotionally in a situation like yours. Care-giving is extremely hard work emotionally and physically. It is also isolating. You are dealing with grieving the lose of your mother, and also trying to transition to a new purpose and way of living. Please allow yourself the time you need to grieve. Grieving is a process and there is no right way to do it - allow yourself to feel and cry. Also, allow for good things to come into your life.
Your main priority right now is taking care of yourself. When you feel ready I think your next priorities could be looking for social support and finding a new purpose - or something to give your life meaning. Social support and meaning are linked to greater well being. Once you are able to find these things I know you will start to feel better.
Social support - I encourage you to look online or in your community. Are there groups you can join? Meetup.ca has great options. Also, check in with your community center. Are there supports for caregivers in your community? There may be in person support groups that you find helpful for grief or care-giving. If you try to look at finding friends as your job for the next few months I bet it will only be a matter of time before you find some social support. There are so many other lonely people out there that would love a friend like you.
Finding purpose - this is easier said then done. You had the most important purpose you could find - caring for a loved one. You do deserve a bit of a break after that; so, purpose could be anything you want. Are you interested in crafting? Volunteering? Caring for animals? Gardening? What interests could you pursue now that you didn't have the time to pursue in the past?
I've asked you lots of questions; so, please take your time to think about the answers.
I hope to read more from you soon. You are not alone in this.
Ashley
Hi Everyone:
I am new to the site and wanted to introduce myself but for the life of me could not figure out how to post, so forgive me for starting a new thread. I would appreciate instructions on how to post without starting a new thread.
I lost my mother March 28, 2019 we were best friends and did everything together, she was a beautiful little soul. I have no other siblings and very distant relatives that I am not on good terms with. I have never felt so alone in my life.
The grief, loneliness is heart wrenching and overwhelming. I waken up each day not knowing how I will get through the day. I am unemployed and have been for a number of years. I was the caregiver to my mum.
I try to be out of the house as much as I can walking for hours, sitting in the library until it closes and when I finally have to come back to the house start crying even before I get here just the thought of coming back to an empty house with no one to talk to.
I have a couple of friends but they have family and their own lives. I feel so alone.
