Vincenza, I am so grateful for all the encouragement and support I find here. Even when I can't post, I do stop by nearly every day to read (and re-read) posts and review sessions to get my courage up, straighten my spine a bit and carry on.
My plans for a summer of relaxation, creativity, and fun have not come to fruition and while it originally felt like a terrible blow, I do recognize that the time is unique and perfect for the challenge which faces me now. Major changes are being requested... no...
demanded of me relationship wise. I am being asked to give more and be more open and it is difficult. I have long protected myself and those around me by maintaining very strict, tall, indestructible walls behind which I battled my demons alone (therapists have occasionally been allowed back there and perhaps members of this forum (through my blog (now deleted
)).
I have mixed feelings about this process. I feel very weak and vulnerable but also strong and terribly brave. It is, afterall, my choice (despite the demands and (ummmm... senior moment... can't think of the word... it means when someone insists you do something "or else the deals off.")
Anyway... it is my choice how much to open myself to this person and to others. I know have the tools and ability to choose for me what is right. Not like before where I was always pushed and pulled along by the needs and expectations of others... too depressed to think for myself or believe I had any right whatsoever to do so.
I am being challenged but am accepting the opportunity to step out into it. I can deal with the uncertainty. I can dismantle my wall one brick at a time and peek out and see what it's like and how it feels and I can withdraw for a while and then take down another one... piece by piece. So far it has not come crashing down on me and while my fortress has been rudely stormed on occasion... it has stood fast and is in my power alone to bring down or build up.
Sorry for the story telling. I
am rambling today but, it does helps me to visualize the picture... big and small. I hope it makes some sense (and possibly is helpful) to others as well. So that's where I am... and it's ok. Not at all what I planned, but ... oh well. At least
I get to take naps now instead of battling toddlers to take them. Nothing sweeter to me right now than having that freedom and rest! It's the little things....