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Hi brightsuunnyday,
 
Unforutunately many people are ignorant when it comes to mental health.  Even those who are educated on mental health may have trouble fully understanding as they have not experienced it themselves.  People can be very unfair and it can indeed hurt quite a bit to be misunderstood when you are not well.
 
Keep in mind that we cannot control other people's actions we can only control how we react to them. Also, unless you are in an abusive situation you can control how other people's actions make you feel.  This is easier said then done though so let's examine a few questions.
 
First of all, what makes other people's reactions to your depression important to you? If you know that this is an illiness and you cannot just "cheer up" then what makes their thoughts so impactful?  Also, you mentioned in another post that you have a lot of guilt around your depression. Where is this guilt coming from? If you believe that you do not have control of your depression then what is it you feel guilty about?
 
 

Ashley, Health Educator
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If anyone else tells me that all I need to do is decide to be happy and see the positive things instead of just the negative I am going to hit something!!!!!
Don't they understand that I KNOW I'm negative but I can't control it? They act like I can just turn it off with a smile. I've lost all respect from everyone. I look like a spoiled brat that cries every time she doesn't get her own way. Whether I get my own way or not, I'm still crying! I just cry all the time and it has nothing to do with how good or bad my life is.
Why doesn't anyone see this as an illness? They assume I am just not a nice person and treat me accordingly. I want this horrible feeling to go away. I can't take anymore.

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