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13 years ago 0 199 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Davit,
 
I understand why you left and why you are going back...
Come by and relax and visit with us over here once in a while when you need a break from it all over there...
I also agree with you, that working on core beliefs is very important...It's the missing piece of the puzzle that makes us whole again....
 
See you later,
Your Friend
Where ever you are..
 
Sid...
13 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sid, ~m,

Hi. I thought I would suck it up and go back to the panic site even though it will be stressful. Besides people will think I just deserted since my post saying I was leaving was deleted. I don't know if it was obvious why I left but I'm a big boy, I can live with it. I don't mind criticism if it is constructive. 

A comment on core beliefs since the panic site does not deal with them adequately, It was not till I understood core beliefs and dealt with them that I really started to get better. It is hard to fix something if you don't know why it is broke.

Davit.
13 years ago 0 199 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Goofy,
 
Thank you for sharing your experience with working on your negative core beliefs..
 
I am finding what you said in your post to be so true that it can be painful but it at the same time it is a necessary part of healing myself. I am getting there slowly but surely....
 
I am making progress and I am feeling better now that I know where some of my negative core beliefs are coming from, which in turn makes it a lot easier for me to challenge them..
 
Thanks for the help.
 
Sid....
13 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Excellent support everyone!
 
It can make a difference and please share with us!
 
Josie, Health Educator
13 years ago 0 199 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
~m
 
I am so glad that you found me and that you are here too...This next leg of work is going to be hard but if we take it slow and easy I think we can make it through it..This is a peaceful place to work on the issues..
 
Sid
 
13 years ago 0 1022 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Oh, me too! I'm so glad to find you here.  I won't feel so alone.  I was saddened by your sudden departure from the Panic Center.  I've come to the conclusion (with help) that I need to do the core belief work now as well, if I hope to move forward in my healing journey.  So I'm back here again... I find the integration of all these areas in CBT quite interesting... and certainly helpful/hopeful.  Here's to the next leg of our work!
13 years ago 0 199 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I have decided it is time to start working on my negative core beliefs and assumptions..I think I am ready to do this now even though I know it will be hard and change isn't going to happen overnight. Some things happened lately that made me realize that it is time to stop beating myself up and start changing my negative core beliefs about myself into positive ones
I started in the depression center and moved over to the panic center a little over a year ago and came to the realization that I still had a lot of work to do on myself here..So now I have returned to start working on my Core Beliefs as the relate to me and my life....

Sid
14 years ago 0 1044 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Identifying them was one thing - then realizing where some of them came from - was sometimes painful.  I didn't dwell on where they came from but in challenging them, it would some times spew forth.  That was hurtful sometimes.
 
I also find now having worked that session a while back that I still find new ones and stop and do the exercises.  I think that realizing there are many and some are right on top and some are at the core and hidden is important.  Get all you can while your getting; but don't think another won't crop up down the road.  At least my experience is that they do. 
 
Sid, hang in there - you can get through this - take your time; be thorough.  Don't worry about where - just realize that information may come up as well.  That may be where the "heart" part comes in. 
 
 
 
14 years ago 0 224 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sid, core beliefs can be a bit scary to challenge, but as you said important to get through and change those thoughts into positive ones. You can definitely work on this, just take your time and go through the process at your own pace.

Members, what did you find most challenging when dealing with your core beliefs and assumptions?
 
 
 
Luciana, Bilingual Health Educator
14 years ago 0 199 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This topic of core beliefs and assumptions really gets to the heart of the problem for me. I find working on this a little scary and wonder if I will be able to take it but at the same time I know I need to do this if I want to get better.  I never knew other people had these kind thoughts playing over in their heads.  I thought it was just me.  I am not sure why it scares me? It just goes straight to my heart.
 
Sid
 

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