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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 910

Hey Rosie,

I am glad you take time for a nice hot bath at night. Me time is so crucial! I am also glad you are feeling better from your last post. This too shall pass... Yes, it is one of the wisest things that was ever passed down to me.

And how are you feeling today?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 85

I do have a nice bath every evening- it is my 'me time'. My anxiety is still pretty bad, I had a mini-panic attack on Tuesday while my husband and I were out attending a talk. I kept my composure nicely but I think i should go see my doctor. I just don't want it to get worse. Thanks Diva, I am feeling better than the last time I posted....

This too shall pass....best advice yet.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Rosie,

What sort of things are you doing for you? Are you making time for yourself at night? Have a warm bath, take a walk, watch your favourite movie.

Members, any other suggestions?

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 910

Hey Rosie,

It sounds like your situation at work is really tough on you. As for the anxiety I do get it. I do better now but I know what it is to be a champion worrier. It is exhausting! I hope you are doing better today. Hang in there, This too shall pass!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

I am feeling really negative about work because I have been working normal hours the last 6 months and in the middle of this month I have to go back to shift work. I have been looking for a job for about 3 months now, and nothing. I am also going to be involved in a project that will require 12-18 hour shifts for about 2 weeks (for 5 days straight- pretty sure this is illegal, but what can you do?). I am exhausted already when I get home, then I cook and clean, do washing etc. How am I going to feel when I am back on night shift? I am also worried about my health as I started getting asthma, which is worse in the heat and humidity of the factory. They are paying me quite well, which makes it impossible to just walk away. I can't even find something that pays less. I am trying to stop living in the future but I just can't stop worrying about what's going to happen in 2 weeks. I am anxious and have am having mini-panic attacks at more regular intervals. Don't feel like going to my doc, know he'll just give me calming tablets but I want to fix the problem, not treat the symptoms. I think I waste half my energy worrying about stuff, leaving me with very little to actually do things. I am just tired and feel like I could use a break but the no-one is giving me one. I had a week off 2 weeks ago and it feels like I didn't even have that break. I am finding it harder and harder to drag myself to work in the morning.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11213

First of all. I really feel your pain about the work issue. It is very discouraging that many employers and people have trouble understanding mental illness The reality is more workers take off time and use disability leave because of mental illness compared to any other reason. A lot of employers are recognizing this and putting policies in place and using EAP programs to help support their employees. In truth it is the most cost effective thing to do. To have productive employees they need be healthy employees. Its sad when someone is sick with a none mental health issue and they get flowers, cards and get well wishes, but when its a mental illness the individual is just ignored and isolated because no one knows what to do. You should try to direct your employer to some of the great EAP programs that are out there it seems that he/she needs a little information.

I am also sorry to hear about everything else. You have been going through a lot. It is always a good idea to see your doctor if you have concerns about your symptoms.

You are definitely loved so please try to reassure yourself of this. Just because your friend needs to take some time for himself right now does not mean he still doesn't care for you. Dealing with a mental illness is incredibly hard and as said earlier a lot of people have trouble understanding it. This can sound a little fluffy but its true: remind yourself that you love yourself. If no one else understands you at the moment and no one else seems to care you always have your bestfriend, yourself. You will get through it together, and you will always be loved. So, give yourself a big hug and a wink in the mirror and tell yourself it is going to be alright. Stay strong Rosie. "This too shall pass"

Ashley

Here to help :)

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 85

OK, so my friend and I decided to part ways (but not with bitterness). I am just a bit freaked out. I've been feeling anxious the past 2 weeks or so and last night I kept fighting this feeling of panic that eventually got the better of me and I had a panic attack. I think I am Ok, it's just that I've been fighting these feelings the past 2 weeks (normally I get control and I am OK) but am worried that I lost it yesterday. Sometimes I become aware that I am feeling a bit nauseus (because of stress) and then I know the panic is coming again, it kind of comes in waves and I can normally 'pull myself together'. Should I go back to the doc? Since I've been on my new meds, I haven't had a panic attack in months. I do have natural tablets that calm me down but I seem to need them constantly and this worries me. My husband suffers from panic disorder and it freaks him out when I panic so I have to try and hide it from him as well. It seems to have been triggered by the fight with my friend, cause I have felt anxious since then. I don't know if it is just panic that I am not loved?Any suggestions?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 85

Well, spoke to my friend and I feel better. I kind of see where he is coming from, it's not my fault- he needs to focus on himself for the moment (which I totally get) so I will give him the space he needs. Maybe one day we'll come back to one another. I have accepted this intellecutally but since last week, I have been really anxious all the time and had to fight a few moments of panic over the weekend (for no particular reason). Hopefully it will blow over. I am just stressed out at work as well. My boss is telling people behind my back that I am not performing. His boss also said that to someone else. Can no one talk to me to my face? The problem is, no one will actually care even if I do explain myself. My boss knows about my depression but he is kind of in denial about it- he pretends like nothing is wrong and if I do try and talk to him, he quickly tries to get away. I hate my job. As in I REALLY hate my job. If I didn't have to pay all the bills, I would just quit. But unfortunately life comes with responsibilities. *Sigh* OK, enough venting. I do feel a bit better, thanks for all your feedback and comments. Don't know what I'd do without you guys!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 456

Hi Rapl,

My husband is also like this. But I have taught him one important ... two important things...

If I sound like I am repeting myself it is because I am! you are unnecessairly problem-solving go to line 20... beep

The second thing I taught him, before dong any Any ANY ANYYYYY problem solving, Gimme a hug. If I hold you the keep quite and enjoy being close. If I let go problem solve to your heart's content.

Is it not strange that from the day we are born we are learning to communicate and after all this pratice and watching and study... we still get it wrong?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 51

Rosie, something to consider. My wife and I have similar problems some times. I am a "male fixer", I feel like it is my job to fix things, especially for the people I care for. Sometimes my wife just needs to vent to me and I find it frustartating because I want to fix the things she brings up. She on the other hand just needs someone to talk to. I have to work very hard at not getting upset , especially when she brings up the same problems again and again, I have to actually ask her"Is this something you wany me to fix or do you just need to talk about it?". We also have talked about the fact that our styles of geting things done is very different. I am very impatient and confrontational(give me an answer, yes or no, so I can move on). She on the other hand is slower and more diplomatic( she wants to keep all options open). Don't know if this applies or helps, but your post made me think of it. I know my wife and I have been taling alot more when we get into disagreements and have found out alot of the times the root cause of it, is our different ways of looking at things. Take care, good luck and you are in my prayers.

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