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You cant just deal with this, you can only know that the person that didnt listen still doesnt understand your pain or my be too afraid to.
Some people, in fact it seems most people see the tears and cry for help as a weakness other than an illness.
Would they have been so unkind if you were in tears because you had broken your leg?
This is something all of us with depression are facing. Unfortunately the ignorance of others only makes us feel even worse.
Its one thing to be unhelpful but unother to be destructive which it appears is what is happening for you.
It is hard. Belive me, hard hard hard, sometimes it seems impossible just to get through the day but hang on in there and try hard to work the programe, also difficult when you feel so low but at least it
helps you to feel that you are doing something to help yourself.
Good luck , keep posting, talk to us. x
hello twister,
I can understand the disappointment. My family lived through my father's bi-polar swings and are not yet recovered (he died in 2002) so my illness is off-limits.
I do not know if this is the best person to let it all hang out with. But as with all rainy days there is a ray of light... the person did not degrade you or your illness. They seem to have been ignornant in how to help you. or even they seem lost... just no idea where to go / what to do in an emotional exchange. depression, tears, suffering, are all very hard to understand from the outside (outside our heart).
this person had gained your trust for a reason. Understanding might just not have been there at that moment; like a dear in the headlights your friend froze. I do not know the relationship you share with the person. Do you know everything in their past -like a close sister-? there might be somethng there that triggered a "flight or fight fear response"...
Twister, your friend probably didn't know what to say. I fought the issue within myself when I was diagnosed with depression. It isn't common knowledge and a lot of people don't know what to say or how to deal with it.
I'm sorry to hear you are heartbroken. One day at a time. Obviously this isn't someone who can serve as a sounding board for you. Use the sight and work the program. It seems to be helping me.
i'm heartbroken and lost in my grief, i trusted someone close to me with my tears and pain- finally after hiding both for such a long time. i shared with hope of some understanding and i got shot down. there i was with my tears, barely able to speak through my fear of what might happen if i bare my soul and when i finished i got "so, how does everyone like your new color scheme for the living/dining room" i am devastated- how the hell do i deal with this?
Twister
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