I know it sounds mean, but I'd take her next $200.00 and hire a locksmith to change all of the locks! Sounds like she'd do the same if your positions were reversed!

Hi Tgirl, Fellow members will be by soon, but I just wanted to say that you had a brilliant suggestion - write your thoughts down! Sometimes even just coming here on the site and sharing your thoughts as you have can be beneficial. Whether you simply write your thoughts down, or prepare a letter for your mom specifically, it is up to you. Maybe even try listing the pros and cons of confronting her. Again, you don't have to actually do anything with these written thoughts if you do not feel ready. Remember that you are important and you have to do what is right for you and for your son. Keep us posted, Casey _______________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team

:| I dont know what to do?... this has always been a problem in my life and i want it to go away!... i just dont know how to deal with it. Its my mother she drives me crazy!... She always seems to be the root of my thoughts and emotions. She lives with me and my fiancee and my son. She has lived with me since my step father commited suicide in 2003. I was a single mom living in an apartment when she moved herself onto my couch. I met my fiancee on the internet and moved two provinces away to be with him in 2005. She followed and moved her self into our place. Its now 2007 and she is driving me bonkers... She pays $200 in rent doesnt help with food and now she is dating some guy and cooks him breakfast lunch and supper with OUR food! argh this guy has a job how come he cant get his own food... My fiancee wont say anything( to much of a nice guy)... but its getting me mad. Me and my mom have had it out alot of times before this and im scared and how she is going to react... Its a catch-22... but i hate living like this... she's getting a free ride and my fiance is paying for it. why should he pay for her when he is already supporting my and my son. my fiancee is going in debt and she's going to concerts and having a good time with her new bf?.... argh im just so upset i wish she would just move out and find her own place... i moved away from her along time ago and now she wont leave... Please help i dont know what to do... i know everyone is gonna be saying just talk to her but that is not easy you dont know my mom... We live in the same house and we dont even talk... i cant even tell you the last conversation we had prob. way back in Oct 2006... I dont trust her with anything thats going on in my life i wouldnt tell her how i feel because then she'll just go and tell all her friends and family... and then they'll go and use it against me when they want to hurt me... argh she has done that so many times... I dont know i have been off my medication for more than a month my doctor didnt give me a refill saying he needs to talk to a psychiatrist about my antidepressants.. so i dont know if im just way to depressed to deal with this or is it just my depression thats why im feeling like this and blaming it all on her??? I dont know im going crazy!!! c