Hello,
I'm a forty somethingyr old woman - "white" Australian.
Never had kids...but my heart goes out to you. I know that I have only a smidgeon of a whisker of an imagination of an idea of what that grief is like for you.
But I can relate a bit. And I can listen if you want to talk about it. - I have got the buddy thing working i *think*. please feel free to chat to me on that if we are on at the same time.
my sister suicided about 10 years ago. it is NOT the same, but grief is grief, and some parts of it i can relate to.
Something that helped me - i read somewhere.
We don't "get over it" -- after the death of someone we love,
We just get on with it. Our lives have been changed permanently,
and I don't want to "get over" my love of that person. A better
term for it might be we adapt. Yes we adapt to our changed lives.
