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19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

Hi Left Alone I am lightened up. Thanks for that advice. I have been on this site for a long time. I do believe that I have made a contribution to a few discussion points. If you want to gather information, will it not be better to ask a depressed person why he is angry and can't one of us rather explain it to you? I am truly sorry if I offended you or if you thought I was angry. I was not. I was saying what I was thinking. Believe me, I live in a very enlightened country, where we are proud to say we don't discriminate against people because of whatever. Discriminate for me means calling people "they" or "them" thereby categorising them. I do believe to rather ask another person's opinion before coming to any conclusions. Like you said, lighten up. If you really want to learn, go and look at a lot of the other posts and see what the members say about advice like that. Once again, I am not angry, just disappointed.

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

This is exactly what a person that lives with a depressed person deals with daily-anger. There isn't really a subject pronoun that could be used that you would find correct. We get on these types of sites to gather information that might help the "entire" family. You need to lighten up! We care!

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 32

Again, if you have seen some of my other posts by now, I am sorry for this one, but I do believe to be very honest. I do not appreciate the talking of "they" or "them". This would then mean that there is a difference between us suffering from depression and you who are healthy and also suffering because we are making you're lives miserable. Yes, I agree, "we" are difficult, "we" are angry. If "you" would try and understand maybe it won't be so difficult for "us" to heal. Just for interest sake. "We" are hearing what you are saying about "us"!!!

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

From what I have read and understand is that men can mask their depression with anger. They just can't figure out why they are angry. They aren't sure if it is them, the relationship they are in, work. They also loose the ability to connect with any affection. It isn't that they don't love; it is just that they can't get that emotion going. It is sad because I think that depression is just like a drip, drip, drip and you don't know you are drowning. It is really hard on the people that love them because you are really left with this person that at the moment cannot give you anything. I thought a lot about my husband, and you know I can't remember the last time I really heard him laugh. It just takes a long time for them to get better. They need a variety of things-therapy, meds, good diet, exercise, and support from people that could be wearing out. You just have to be ready for it and just don't put any pressure on them. You want it over with and to have the person back-you can't.

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

You are so right about them not even smiling. I have some digital pictures from outings with friends (Birthday Parties, etc.) that I was reviewing recently. There are some, where he is in the background, with this horrible unhappy look on his face. It's scary to see. Again...I am hard on myself and thought it was because he was unhappy with me, but I don't think that is so. He wasn't really "angry" but he was angry for him! He is very quiet and laid back, so to hear him complain about getting out of bed for work, not being as patient with me, getting irritated with waiters, etc. in public, etc. just didnt' make sense. I don't know if it was because he lowered his dosages or if he was just in a fallout...perhaps he is bi-polar? I just don't know...it's so hard to understand any of this. He didn't talk to me about it at all...just said he had "anxiety." The only time I knew something was really wrong is when I woke up one night found him on the back porch crying with this heads in his hands saying over and over again "I'm broken...I'm so broken." I wish I had done something more. But he just closed up the next day and never spoke of it again (he had been drinking the night before when it happened.) I should have realized the severity of it all then...I wish I could help him, but he doesn't want to be around me or talk to me now, until he is "ready" he said. All I can do is pray for him. And we do, as you said, need to care for ourselves, too!

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 21

Hi, both my husband and I have problems with depression and for him, anger is definitly one of the symptoms. I remember reading that excessive anger is more likely to be a symptom in men than in women. His medication helps a lot, and he says he can definitly feel a difference if he forgets a pill.

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

Yeh, that is what it is like. There is hardly a smile on their faces. It is so sad, and it just drags everthing and everyone down with the disease. I remember when my husband first started taking his meds about 4 years ago. He was such a different person, but he just thought he was feeling better on his own. So, the first mistake-he stopped taking them. We have been in such a slow slow spiral down. I wonder if the depressed person has any comprehension of the other side of this. I really appreciate your post. It is good to know that as a fallout victim one is not alone-thanks. I am on my way to workout-that has been the absolute best thing I have done for myself for about ten years. I feel so much better-that is so nice to be able to say!

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6

Hi! You helped me yesterday, so I hope I can help you. When I first dated my ex he was taking a high dosage of meds. He was kind, patient, and never angered. Towards the end, when he lowered his dose, he was irritable, shouted in traffic, complained about things, and was just more frustrated...a side I never saw. Again...I thought this was because he was unhappy in the relationship, but I don't think that was the case. He would complain about things he never did before...his Mom, his Roommate, etc....very strange, indeed.

19 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

I was wondering if any of you found that your mate, when dealing with depression, has expressed anger. Anger at himself, marriage, a lot of things in general. He just started his meds about 3 weeks ago. :confuse:

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