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Davit,
I do the core belief affirmations daily. Regarding change, I do find it difficult, in some areas more than others.
 
Not to evade the question, but I find taking steps awfully difficult, but today was somehow different.  I had a rough start, having to wake early for a housecall, and sleepless night.  By the time I took a nap, prepared lunch, did some administration, I was ready to go out to the gym.
 
As I did my exercises, I wrote down a step of the day, for each of six projects, and it seemed too easy!
 
The rest is mechanical, and I think I can do it in this evening, while I usually take the evenings off, and weekend.
 
Maybe exercise sends oxygen to my depleted brain? 
 
Usually that change to figure out the step towards things like: finding a new doc, or finding mom a massage therapist(astronomical fees in the city!), etc.  is just brutally draining.  Maybe I need to do more physical exercise, as I said, during the day, since I'm on my butt so much time.
 
But that's the world I live in.  If I were by myself, I think I'd be do more physical stuff....
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Hugs

These things you are doing you know are CBT techniques. How well do they work for you and how difficult are they to do? People tell me they find change difficult so this kind of change is difficult also. Probably core beliefs are the reason why.

Davit
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I find I take things personally.
 
Yesterday, a neighbour finishing a two week renovation  project, and I jumpy about it.  I suppose it's just something I envy, since I couldn't get a project done, and they seemed to be able to get a contractor.  Also, there's tension between us, since they've crossed boundries.
 
I was going through a bunch of situations which never materialized.  The final situation, since I never spoke to anyone, caused me alarm, when my mom(the apple doesn't fall from the tree, goes the saying) told me they had their ladder on our eavestrough.  I also heard some concerns they had about "structural" issues, and I think they were talking about us.
 
Today I just reframed the question, and thought "what if they were speaking about their property?"
 
I just wish I wasn't so upset, since I can't sleep.  It didn't help that mom became extra upset about my contact a doc about a very early appointment.  My head is aching from getting up, and worrying.  But I even reframed that, by thinking that mom needs to be listened to when she says she has a headache.

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