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I'm back from the dentist. All went well and I am doing fine.
I also want to mention that self care is so very important especially when you are a caregiver. I know this from personal experience so please make sure you are taking care of Your needs and getting as much Rest as possible.
Davit,
Great advice I couldn't have said it better.
I hope all went well for you on your long trip to the Eye Surgeon today..
Red1, I hope everything goes well at the dentist, I now it can be worrisome. I remember when I was having my teeth worked on, it can be a long process.
Because I am vicarious I think I can warn you to watch out for it happening. Accept others have pain but be careful you don't start feeling it. Leave time for you or like a spider in a web it will suck you dry. And it is no ones fault but the situation.
My family doc once told me I'm entitled to a life too, when I was describing the stress of caregiving. It's as though he was speaking a foreign language.
I've tried to get mom into some kind of groups, but we caregivers are at great risk, I'm told. Sometimes the younger person, who's doing the caregiving can even predecease the ill person.
Maybe I need to check out these 3 groups which were suggested to me, so I can be sane, at least.
Today was a good day. Spend most of the day doing pleasant activities..I spent the day distracting myself from worrying about tomorrow..
Tomorrow I see the dentist to finish up some dental work. I am hoping all goes well and we do not have to do laser gum surgery tomorrow or send me to a periodontist if that doesn't work for extra work before or after we put my new crowns on tomorrow..The dentist warned me before I left his office on my last visit, after he had worked on three of my teeth for 2 hrs 30 mins that it might be something that has to be done and that we will have to see how my gums react to the new crowns on my next visit..That was 3 weeks ago and tomorrow morning at 9 a.m. I will be sitting in the dental chair againn for that next visit and it will be another long one..1 hr 30 min in the chair again..
So tonight I am trying to relax and not worry myself with a lot of What If this or that type of thinking...
I am Crossing my fingers and saying a prayer that all goes Well for all of us tomorrow..
Well, I can't say today was great but I got two more outdoor things off my list. Only one left now. And that is to put bait boxes in the Orchard for the voles. I don't usually put them out till it snows.
Started the morning off with BP too high again. Doctor isn't terribly concerned. Sugar is okay. Waiting on a more complicated result.
Have to get up early tomorrow and drive three hours to get my eyes measured for cataract lenses. A couple minutes work and come home. We will probably have lunch and buy some winter cloths before coming home.
Still not a bad day. I did get more movies from the library.
We have suggest to my mom getting involved in groups, but she wants nothing to do with them. She also gets sick if we are out too long for some reason.
My therapist believes I took on too much responsibility after my dad died, but I had no choice really. It all started before he died anyway, someone had to be the responsible one.
I do have my sister with me and we try to work things out so one is home most of the time with her, if I did not have my sister I have no idea what would have happen by now.
My mom has made it clear also if we ever put her in a home, she would find a way to kill herself and she will make sure we know it was all our fault that she is dead, as we killed her. I don't think she would kill herself, but I can see her doing something. She used to get herself in diabetic comas on purpose to get attention and go to the hospitals. My dad told her the last time it happen ( a year or so before he died) that the next time she had to go to a hospital for something like that, she was never coming home. He would find her a home for the elderly.
I think I miss my dad's strength the most. I sometimes also wonder where I would be if he had not died, would I still be in this state? Would I be in this career? That's the problem with What If's....they can make things worst.
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