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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1071

Ha Ha Hugs,

Thanks for the good memory of a Cougar being a car. When I was 16, my first boyfriend Ben, had a Cougar car and we went to the town Fair in it. Wow! I haven't thought about it in years.

When I was growing up in the 70's all I wore was blue jeans and t-shirts, because you would be mercilessly ostracized if you wore nice or fancy clothes. I still wear t-shirts and jeans at 50, I guess I'm still taking that clothing thing seriously. It's like people who have the same hair do for 30 years :-) Hmm...I might be one of those people too - ha ha. Well, thanks for lightening my day with those memories Hugs. I appreciate you.

Shari

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Hi Ashley,

It really helps when the educators show how human you are, since I there's a loneliness which everyone feels, but we don't "connect" it to the others being similar. It doesn't help if we don't connect.

I tried to work out some bills today, and got myself into a tizzy, and could have used a break, which I'll take now at the gym to distress.

Davit,

It's funny about the raven fighting isn't it. My animal humour was a squirrel unravelling a carpet thread, and seeing him get "squirrely".

Shari,

I know what you mean about going out at night. There's this vulnerability with age, and a younger community. And everyone is so vibrant, looks perfect and dress so well. I think I had hand-me-downs for so long, that I'm afraid to admit, since it was part of survival.

Now frugality is marketed as "green" and old things are called "vintage".

Remember when a cougar was a macho car?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1071

Hi Ashley,

The college courses I'm interested in are on line only, so that defeats the purpose of interacting with people. I did take college courses and everyone is 30 years younger than me. They were nice to me, but we really didn't hang out, it would be weird :-) The only two places to work that are offering to hire people are Target and Panera Bread. I know all of the kids that work both places and they all say, you don't want to work here, but they have to, to pay for school, then they're leaving. I noticed the management is bad and lots of people leave, it's like a revolving door, that's why they are always hiring. Not good working conditions and you can't choose your hours. It would be nights and weekends and that's when George and I go to the flea markets and out for coffee. I think adults go to night school, but the classes are from 8 p.m. - 11 p.m. and in my area I'd rather not go out by myself at night. They were good ideas though. I have found the people in the country are friendlier than in the city or town I live in. But, moving is not an option right now.

Today I went out by myself. I went to the Mall to get a massage and the place isn't there anymore. I bought aromatherapy perfume of lavender and chamomile and hand lotion of eucalyptus tea. It's stress relieving and relaxing. I found a 2" ceramic dog for my collection while I was out and a cute little plush dog; they are both in my avatar photo. Not collecting plush dogs, but this Pomeranian with shaved fur was too cute to resist. I went to the Sushi place and Cindy had all of my knitted sushi surrounding the cash register. She said all of the customers comment on how cute they are. That made me smile. I slept well, but woke up to stress back pain. I'm using every over the counter remedy I can find. It will eventually go away, it always does. My dogs were happy to see me when I got back. Wouldn't it be great if people greeted you with such enthusiasm? I can't picture George jumping up and down to see me, although it makes me laugh to think about it. I love my pets, but they're not people, and I miss socializing with humans. I'm glad for the site and my email friend. So, I'm not completely alone. And, although George is quiet, we still go to flea markets and have coffee weekly, so that's the only in person company I have. Hope you're having a good day.

Shari

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Yesterday after a day that started at 6:30 in the Morning and ended at 7:30 that night my neighbour showed up with a heaping truck load of manure for my green house. It is too soon but it is free so what can I say. Now it is sitting in my yard and I have to unload it so he can have his truck back. It rained and it is cold this morning. I will have to put some things off to do this. But that is life. My life anyway. Unexpected things happen. So I will smile and take my sorry ass out to the truck and unload it. And it will get done as will the things I put off so I can do this. It isn't totally free, I have a small wood work project to do for it. Trading can be inconvenient some times. On top of this we have more appointments at the Dentist tomorrow. My life is like that but some how I don't let it worry me. Things seem to get done although not always in the right order. If I made lists mine would be long.

Like the saying, "I'm so far behind I think I'm first"

At least there are no mosquitoes. And there are things to look at and birds to listen too so my focus will not be the job. This is how I manage to be alone. And I'm not actually alone. This morning a Raven got too close to a Goose and got beat up by it. That made me smile. Ravens are too full of themselves.

The sun is trying to come out so here I go to find humour in shovelling s..t. It can be done.

One of the projects put off was to dig up and move 40 asparagus plants to a new bed. They are too full of grass. The other projects are mostly maintenance. They can wait a few days. Some projects can wait a few months.

Davit.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hi Shari,

I really hear you. It can be so hard to meet people when so many people spend so much of their time looking at a screen. I wish I had a perfect solution for you but all you can do is keep putting yourself out there. Continue to look for classes you are interested in, continue to organize or go to meet ups and continue to look for new things to do. Just don't lose hope.

I am a pretty introverted person and I tend to be a bit of a homebody so finding friends for me has been somewhat of a challenge also. I found it easiest to find friends when I was having daily interactions with them. Work, school, and volunteering is where I met the most people. What are your thoughts on work and school? Obviously you shouldn't just got to school to meet friends but we're brainstorming here

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1071

Hi Hugs,

Humor is a great stress reliever. I try to find the humor in every situation and laugh about it now, not ten years from now.

My back pain is stress related and I figured out the stress is from lack of connection with people. I have on line friends, but I find I need in person friends too. A lot of people in my life are just too busy to stay connected. These sporadic relationships are awkward. It's hard to stay connected when it's just a once in awhile communication or visit. I'm either going to find a life coach to talk to or try to find the Pastor of a local church I know and talk about how to find people who will stay connected with you. With everyone working, emailing, and texting, it seems that people are more inward and content with less human interaction. I live in a new world and miss the old one, where families used to live near each other and get together on a regular basis. Since society won't change, that means I have to, but how does a person who desires being social survive in a non social world that's too busy for you? I wonder if Ashley knows. I honestly think a lot of anxiety is caused, for me anyway, by not having people to interact with. When you are isolated, you stay self focused and live in your head and that's not good. I need other things outside of myself to participate in. I feel I have exhausted every resource where I live, because it took me 13 years to find Irene and she's been back from her recent business trips and hasn't contacted me about meeting for coffee. This is the society I live in. The only people I really have a connection with are my parents, but when they aren't around anymore, I don't have anyone else who will give me the time of day. It's sad really. I'm going to go out today, despite my back pain, and find something to do. I've had this problem for so long, you'd think I would have adjusted to it by now, but I can't get rid of my social need. I envy people who like being alone and don't want to be social, like my husband, daughter, and many others I know. It must be easier for them to live in this new world of technology. I didn't grow up with all of these gadgets, and remember how it used to be, so I don't know how to adjust to our modern world.

Shari

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Hi Vincenza

I’m not sure it’s what I have to do, as much as my
consistent overcomplicating of
life. As I drifted to sleep
yesterday, I recalled a friend who was a programmer, and thought of his mind as
being able to compartmentalize, something I can’t do as activities spill over
into each room, if a computer program was a room, in my frail mind.

I’m worried about myself, since I have these limits and
forget, although I seem to have a guardian angel, until I run out into the
traffic sometimes, and get hit emotionally.

Then I have to start over.

I might need a little more connection, since I don’t get out
to meet people enough, although I have so much to do at home. This forum is okay as support, but it’s a
nibble when I might need more of a meal, to use a cooking analogy, as I
struggle to compare things that I’m struggling with...like feeling so stressed
it’s hard to think of a meal idea.

This post looks a little more coherent than the one I
just lost. Maybe I need some sleep too.

I think the Ayurvedic tradition gets more sleep during the summer,
don’t they? Maybe I'd look forward to that.

I'll start tonight

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi Hugs,

I was wondering what your avatar is! Blossoming is a sign of new growth, a new beginning - Of course it's ok to see yourself as blossoming. What events or goals do you have on the horizon?

Vincenza, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

Hi Vincenza,

I changed my avatar as I prepare to move the sprouting Guacamole Hostas to a safe place for some anticipated building. They bloom fiercely in summer for a very short period, and then reappear, so I wish to save them now from harm for their summer bloom.

Maybe it's okay to see myself as a sprout, just like something that going to bloom later?

I was looking at the New Yorker captions, which I've tried to enter. Once I came 17th, and I suppose that's good since if New York is the centre of the universe, then I probably had near moment of fame!

"Hosta La Vista"

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Laughter is some great medicine and potent stress-reliever!

It releases our feel-good hormones: endorphins.

What a great way to start the day - some morning cartoons & laughs with breakfast

Amazing indeed!

Vincenza, Health Educator

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