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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Can anxiety build up until it becomes panic?

DUDE !!!!

You are amazing.... I can't even imagine dealing with all that you do.... thank you for letting us know it can be done with style and grace. I hope you are planning something special as a personal reward. What might that be???

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Hello, I´m Ashley

Welcome Ashley. We are glad you found us and look forward to hearing more about your struggle as well as your successes. We all kind of help each other around here. It can and does get better....

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Just a question.

What a great question Davit! I will, no doubt, think on this some more but my initial reaction is about the dragon reference. I love the analogy (or is it a simile?... I can never remember). It brings to mind one of my favorite poems, "The Tale of Custard, the Dragon" by Ogden Nash.

Custard is part of a menagerie belonging to a girl named Belinda. Everyone (except Custard who is a coward) is wonderfully brave and outgoing.... "But Custard cried for a nice safe cage." They all go through this terrible invasion by a pirate where upon everyone hides... except the cowardly dragon who leaps in to slay the pirate. They all celebrate and feel brave again, ".... but Custard keeps crying for a nice safe cage." That's the last line of the poem (it is quite long and rather graphic (although not by today's standards).

In relation to why do I have such awful anxiety ... I do think of Custard and his desire to feel safe. I get anxious because really bad, real things happened to me... no one rescued me... except scared me and while I learned how to cope with these bad things it has left a legacy of fear and a need to stay alert.... but really all I want is a nice safe cage (agoraphobic that I am).

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Just a question.

Davit, can you clarify what you mean by Question 2... Is it how much does the fitting in affect us? Or wanting a safe cage? I've drafted several answers and just have myself all confused now. :confuse:

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Just a question.

I agree that knowing "WHY" can be very helpful... it gives perspective.... knowing the source of my anxiety, helps me understand that the "danger" is not real here and now... It helps me with my self-talk.... instead of cussing myself out for being weak or stupid or "sick"... I can compassionately acknowledge that these fear behaviors are no longer helpful or applicable to today. I can use the 10 questions to challenge my thoughts now.... and not get tangled up too much with judging those behaviors.... just put my energies into changing them.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

I did it (and didn´t die :p)

I love this thread that Ocean started.... I did it (and didn't die :P) .... so perfect! I have another instance where I did stuff I usually just avoid like the plague, but I did it and not only didn't die... I enjoyed myself. Unbelievable!

I met (in real life, at a restaurant) an old friend I haven't seen in quite awhile. I was calm and excited about going. I wasn't nervous about eating in public and really was able to just focus on her and enjoy the give and take of a real time conversation. I wasn't bothered... heck, I didn't even notice the myriad of things that used to make going out and meeting people so problematic. This is freedom! It was all so matter of fact, that I didn't even realize my success until I started filling out my mood tracker for the day. What a change!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Stress Part II

Awww... just go ahead and taste both bales!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Spring is Here!

Aww... you bring tears to my eyes... beautifully written and wonderfully alive Red! Congratulations!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

Just a question.

Can it be as simple as accepting that you are you and it is okay. And honestly believing it. Could this be enough to remove the reason to panic. You know, just being you and liking the you that you are. Not having to work to fit.

Oh my....

I'm beginning to not only see, but actually live the possibility ... or better yet.... relax into the possibility.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 376

I did it (and didn´t die :p)

To what do I attribute my success???

No question, it is being here... working through the lessons... and being supported so wonderfully by the health educators and fellow members. You all have been so patient with me... so forthcoming with information... so honest about your own struggles... and, of course, I cannot forget to mention all those very annoying questions you ask when I just want answers handed to me on a silver platter. I mean, sheeeesh! you all make me think so hard and be aware of what I'm feeling and then not only expect me to think and feel, but actually behave differently!

What can I say? It's all ur fault.

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