hi vencinza, my use of alcohol was negative with every relationship i had and with any that i have managed to hold on to...there is no place for alcohol in my life.....i am grateful to hav learned the truth about my consumption and the serendipity that brought me to this realization....i am not a person that can drink, period....the negatives in my life are being replaced by positives, thankfully, our society is supportive and tolerant and i am grateful for this forum, the support and understanding, the encouragement, without alcohol i can b honest, accepting of life and others, and live according to morals...i admire and respect anyone facing this issue and truly wish them success.....the support of others who hav been there is wonderful....no one expects perfection, but overcoming addiction is a journey towards peace, serenity, active self knowledge and care for others... take care