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Struggling with challenging Negative thoughts


Ashley - Health Educator
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a year ago 0 Ashley - Health Educator 3260 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hello,

There is more information on Cognitive Distortions in session 4. 
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a year ago 0 TofinoSunset 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hi. Im interested in the concept of cognitive distortions that you used to address negative thinking patterns. Is there any reading on this idea somewhere in this program?
Ashley - Health Educator
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a year ago 0 Ashley - Health Educator 1798 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hi Vicky,

I am sorry to read you did not have a happy birthday. I can see why you would be disappointed. Here are some questions I had when reading your post...
 
- If your family did not care why would they bother to give gifts at all?
- Does getting thoughtless gifts mean you are worthless? What other explanations could there by for them getting thoughtless gifts? (Were they busy? Did they think the gifts were thoughtful?)
- How else do they show their love for you?
- If you were to talk to them about this what would you say?
- People express love in many ways (gifts, acts of service, affection, spending time with someone, communication). Could it be that they put greater value on other ways to express love?
- If your sister or partner was depressed and had the same thoughts, what advice would you give them?
- What are some positive memories you have with your family where you felt loved?
- Have they given nice gifts before? If so, what was different about those times? If not, then could it be they are not very good at giving gifts or perhaps do not think it is a big priority in how they express love?
- Are you using any cognitive distortions that may be colouring your thinking? (should statements, black and white thinking, etc)
 
Let us know how you are doing with these tough negative thoughts.

Ashley, Health Educator
Vicky123
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a year ago 0 Vicky123 1 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
I'm new to here and want to work through the programmes.  I have had some experience of CBT and currently I am finding it really hard to challenge my negative thoughts on an issue.
 
Basically I had my 40th birthday at the weekend and I got really thoughtless gifts from my partner, mum and sister.  Not even creative or thoughtful cards.  It would have been fine any other year I wouldn't have cared, but I'm really struggling to deal with thoughts about this that are causing me a great deal of sadness.
 
They don't care about me
 
I'm not important to them
 
I'm worthless/ unloveable
 
Every time I try to think of a rational response or way to challenge these thoughts I am just coming up with more evidence to justify the negative thoughts.... I am really struggling.   I guess that is part of the depression filter. But please can anyone give me some rational thoughts as starters to challenge these thoughts.  Thank you in advance

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