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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Well my friend is back from her Holiday where she rode a high speed train and a gondola. She said the flights were long but med free. All her flights have been. And she is looking forward to the next trip. She is also looking for overtime to afford them. So much easier to work if you have a reason.
She did find the other side of the world crowded and too many people smoke.

Davit.
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Still what does it take to get people to believe? Since it is such a key. Seeing is believing! Is that what it takes?

If it was that simple all we would have to do is just do it. No something is stopping us from believing in ourselves. A fear of change maybe. I don't know. I wish I did.

Davit
Ashley -> Health Educator
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As always, beautifully put Davit.


Ashley, Health Educator
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Ashley

I think it was belief, the hardest thing of all to do which is why she could keep trying for three weeks. Which is why we need success storeys. Like with core beliefs, you can have perception, whether you get it from yourself, a friend, like I was for her or a therapist and you can have the right attitude. You know, the will to want to change but in the end what gets most of us is belief. It is so hard to believe when everything is against it. I think we lose more people to this than anything. I've tried to show people that I'm just as ordinary as them and it was just as hard for me and that the only reason I made it is that I believed I could. I had faith that I could. And I had someone who believed I could and kept pushing me.

She writes me to tell me of her successes and failures. The one failure is such that anyone would have failed. The big thing is that because she believes it was okay that it had no effect on her future. No set back. It was a very scary event but she seems to have done the logical thing, Believe it was only an event. No need to give it control. 

You can understand why "want to" works but till you see it work a few times you have no reason to believe and if you don't believe it how can it work. All it takes is a few successes and you soon "want to" for the freedom it gives you. Even if it still hurts a bit, it is worth it. "want to" gives you success, accomplishment and freedom. Sometimes though you need an "uncle" you can believe in too, some one you can believe in so you have a reason to keep trying. Some one who made it and has faith in you.

How do you believe things your mind tells you not to. That strong core beliefs tell you not to. You have to see it work for yourself and more than once. It is so much easier to not believe than to believe. Better the devil you know.
So you tell me, how do we get people to believe. By example is the only way I know. Take them by the hand and show them.

Davit
Ashley -> Health Educator
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Wow, thanks for the update Davit!

How was she able to change her "have to" to " want to"? 


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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Just a little update on a friend from the site who had severe agoraphobia. By changing her "I have to" thoughts to "I want to" she has been able to do amazing things. Fly to England with a safe person, drive over bridges and this latest. Fly to France on her own to meet with her husband for a Mediterranean tour. All by herself with absolutely no anxiety. She Emailed me from France so excited, on her way to Spain.
It can work for you too if you set your mind to it.
Negative to positive is all it takes.

Davit

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