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Expressing oneself


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hugs,
 
Remember to take care of you first!  You need your sleep and relaxation, it will help keep you alert and focused.
 
Take the "you" time...you need it!

Josie, Health Educator
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I can only ask for small things. Consultations are free, from armchair quarterbacks. One cousin, to my surprise, stated that "I'm there(meaning in the home" so I am elected. I am getting some support, but when you're competing with missing on overtime, blackmailed by the spouse, it leaves little leverage for me. I just end up being frustrated, and antagonized. At this point, I know mom would be in hospital without me around, because of the dependence, so we'll have to foot the bill for hired help. I'm a micromanager, which doesn't help things.
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I know this will be a silly question but have you no siblings that can help a bit so you can have some time off. I say silly because My brother never helped me with my Dad.

Davit
10 years ago 0 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Davit, I do live with limits, around caregiving, for example. I never imagined how little freedom I'd have, at this stage. Then again, my mind is like a bunch errant thoughts. I've tried to imagine these like mosquitoes, recently. They're distracting, and it takes energy, so I'm not going to engage them much, so I can move on to other things.
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Hi hugs

Expressing oneself can be very hard if you are not sure who you are. Especially if you have been living in someone else's shadow. I might have asked a year or so ago who Hugs was or maybe I didn't think it was the right time. I think you are a chameleon, we all are a bit. Maybe it was from work or maybe it is peer pressure. I meant it when I said I would like to go for coffee as a friend. I guess I'm curious to see if you are living in a shell. Maybe I'm wrong but I feel you always have to do the right thing. Years back on here I let go and became the me I am instead of the me I wanted people to think I was. Boy was that hard to do, almost 50 years of having another side. Bloody core beliefs made two people out of me. Not split personality, just one me for the world and one for me. Maybe I still do it a bit but for the most part what you see is what you get and I feel better for it. And if I'm wrong I'm sorry but I just had to ask.
Why do I see this, because I see a guy happy gardening and fixing things but frustrated with life otherwise. I don't know the song but I think everyone has a right to express themselves and if they don't they can get lost in who they are. And if you are who you are, then my curiosity is satisfied.

I shouldn't send this but I will because I honestly mean no harm or pain and definitely no insult. I'm not that type of person.

Davit.

Ps. My Brother cast a shadow, I always wanted to impress him, I spent years trying to impress people by being better without showing them up. Well I am better than most of them but it doesn't matter because I know who I am. I am me. 
No more shadows on me. And if people know who I am I can safely express myself.

PPs I hope you sleep well. It sure makes a difference in me.
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I wonder if this has a lot of value, as in the pop singer's song "Express Yourself" by Madonna. Today I noticed how wired I was, after a month of sleep deprivation, as mom recovers from some infection. I could tell I was irritable, at the smallest things - driver errors, parking infractions and even a thank you note for some chocolate on Valentine's day, which "seemed" critical. It's funny because I did have many "ideas", and a kind of excitement about doing stuff, but at the same time I was so tired! I really need some sleep. I'll take some Tylenol to help, and then do some relaxation exercises.

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