I have a history of being kind and a giver, and taken advantage of. I think controlling and domineering people and takers see the sucker sign on my forehead a mile away
Initially, I was just going to write her off and not give her a chance. My daughter thought that I could go for coffee, for me, and get to know her and if she turns out to be a person I don't want to be friends with, then I can write her off. I read a book recently stating that when we don't know people, we fill in the blanks erroneously, with the limited information we have about them. I'm not making excuses for her, I think she could have handled it better, by telling me upfront that she has to schedule her time around teleconferences. That would have saved me some grief. But, she could honestly be unaware of that flaw, or so busy, she just didn't think to say it. As Davit said, she may not be aware of her own baggage she's carrying around. I'm sure I'm unaware of my own as well. George said maybe she's unorganized. I said, she's an Event Planner, she has to be organized. He said, maybe she's not the one in charge of making appointments
Hugs, like you, I always think of something snappy to say about 3 hours later
One time I was at the store getting pictures developed (before the wonderful world of digital cameras) and I asked the customer next to me if she knew the date. She looked at me and said, you don't work, do you. I was dumbfounded. She was slamming me for being a housewife. I came up with a good comeback later, I should have replied, I work, I just don't get paid for it. Oh well. It's true you show people how to treat you, by allowing them to treat you poorly. I'm hoping this is not the case with Irene. If she constantly cancels without notice, then I'm not up for that. I read another book where the author said that I am worthy and I shouldn't have to try to sell my worthiness to other people, because they're not your true friends. So, I'm up for giving it a shot and I'll know sooner or later if I want to be friends with this person. If I cut it off now, I'll never know, because I judged her ahead of time, based on limited information about her. I'd rather base my decision on fact not assumption