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performance anxiety /agoraphobia


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Past memory (even only minutes in the past) dictates how you act or react. Core beliefs dictate how and where you store these memories and how and when you use them. Since they recycle back to memory it can be hard to change core beliefs. It can be hard to recognize them even, if they have formed a routine.

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Ashley,
Building on Davit's point about core beliefs, isn't really not about pleasing or performance, but about our core beliefs?  The outward behavior is the reflection of our inner thoughts.  Whether I'm an elite athlete, or simple pedestrian, my thoughts trigger the anxiety, not whether I'm matching the  finish line in a race or running to catch the bus but my response
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Hi Vivek,
 
I think everyone has had these fears at one point or another. It takes time to build confidence in yourself and your work. Davit is absolutely right, core beliefs can effect your confidence and your anxiety. Working on the entire program will help with some of these fears.  Focusing on the session on Challenging Negativitywill help you challenge the negative thoughts that make you question yourself.
 
 
Ashley, Health Educator
12 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I found it difficult to separate people pleasing from performance. Performance should come first. Performance should be enough. People pleasing and second guessing can take me away from performance. I prefer to work where I am noticed for what I do, not who I am or know. 
Take the time to look at your performance from your eye only. Are you good enough? Is it enough? And here is the big one, would you be happy with who you are and what you do if it only mattered to you? If you find anything lacking that is where you spend time. Everything else will fall into place. 
How much do you know about core beliefs, they effect performance.

Davit.
12 years ago 0 7 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi ,
 
I feel nervous  and anxiety  when it comes to performance .Every one has little bit of it but i guess i have more.
 
Questions like
"whether I will be able to do this work" ?
"Whether I will be able to ask right questions in meeting or when talking to client " ?
"Am I capable enough " ?
"What next person will say or feel if i am not able to answer questions asked by them  " ?
"Whether my boss is happy with my performance or not " ?
"Whether he is going to promote me or fire me " ?
 
These types of questions coming to my mind  when I am at work ,Thus hampering my professional life .
But I really want to perform well But I am not able to .
 
Kindly provide inputs !!!
 
Best Regards,
Vivek

 
 



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