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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Great reading your positive and realistic answers Red. Never seizes to amaze me how resilient you are and I mean that 100% genuinely.

I hope your appointments go as you hope and you get all your questions answered. I'll be thinking of you and sending positive energy all the way to California from Toronto.

Take care and stay strong,

Ashley

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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Ashley,,

I have something I want to say to you before I sign off tonight...I meant to say in my last post to you. Thanks Ashley..and then sign out as Red..It looks a little crazy the way I wrote it..I am just a little tired today..

Well I have a big day of exposure coming up tomorrow afternoon with the urologist..So I am going to bed early tonight..It's 8 pm here in southern California..Today has been a very tiring day and I need to be rested for tomorrow.

I will try to sign in with a update when I can..It may take me some time to digest everything that the doctor said to me..After that I have a follow up with the another doctor in the Nephrology Dept on April 2..So it may be a couple of weeks before I am ready to talk about it all..This is all going to be very challenging to say the least..

One good thing is I made a lot of headway on clarifying my boundaries this afternoon and I feel really good about that..

Thanks again Ashley, as always!!

Till next time...

Red...

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hello Ashley,

Thank you for the questions and helping me think this through. I will try to answer to the best of my ability of what I understand about myself..

The thing that I am doing that is making me step over my boundaries I think is my natural trait to help others. It is my Florence Nightingale part of my personality and also that I worked for many years in the health care field as a Nurses aid and Home health aid..I want to enable other not disable them or myself in the process..

I think I know what boundaries I might need to set for myself now. That the best thing that I can to do for myself and to help others it to let them stand on their own two feet. To just stand back for now and help those that really want and my help..

The consequences of stepping over the boundaries I have set will be and are that I will not be able to stay well emotional and in turn will not be able to get well physically.

As for whats need tweaking..I need to remember to put my health and well being first or I will be of no use to myself or others.

As for what is stopping the tools I learned here from working today..I think I just became overwhelmed and lost my focus. I need to make myself and my health the top priority when here and stop putting myself at the bottom of the totem pole.

In answer to the question in your last paragraph..Yes I remember when I first came here..I was a very scared person. Running from my fears across the country in my camper and later my travel trailer..Feeling lost and like a stranger in strange land..I am not longer that scared person..I am comfortable with who I am and know where I belong..I no longer feel lost and scared.

What do I need to do for myself now..First off I think I need to start reading the book Boundaries again, maybe a chapter a week..Next I need to spend so time working in my garden today..I am going to get out the fabric with the birds on it that I bought over 2 years ago and start planning my next quilting project..So I guess what I really need to do now is start making my emotional and physical health my top priority because I do want to get and stay well..To help the one person I know I can help and that is myself..I deserve to relax and enjoy my life now..I have worked hard to get where I am today..With your help of course..

Thanks,

Ashley

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hi Red,

I am sorry to hear this. Clearly now you need to be focusing on your health. Try not to get discouraged, you are doing great. It just seems there is a little fine tuning that needs to be made to your coping strategies in challenging situations like the one you have touched on. I am glad you set boundaries; this is important especially if you can pin point what is causing you to think negatively. But boundaries are set for a season, not to cross them. What is making you step over these boundaries you have set for yourself? How clear are your boundaries? How can you make them more clear? What are the consequences if you do step over these boundaries? Moving forward what needs tweaking here?

That all being said there will always be times that come up when you are challenged like you are now. In this case you challenge the negative thinking like you would before for example using the 10 questions, doing self care activities, etc. What is stopping these tools from working now?

If you are still feeling discouraged after reading my numerous questions then think back... Think back to when we first met online. Do you remember? Look at how far you have come and how much you have achieved. You have got through so much, I know you can get through this too. What do you need to do for yourself right now?

Thinking of you,

Ashley, Health Educator

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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hello Ashley, I think I am ready for those suggestions right about now..I find I am having some problems again this morning with being to sensitive to others energies. All I am comfortable saying here in the forum is that all repetative talk about Cancer..And what seems to be the overuse of this word seems be a problem for me. I am dealing with some health issues as you know and I have made a point of not jumping to conclusions until I have all the facts. My doctors haven't said I have cancer yet. So there really is no reason to think the worse and I don't, but this constant exposure here is really very hard for me to deal with. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can deal with this? I have been trying to set some boundaries for myself here in the group but I seem to keep letting myself get pulled back into the same scenario's over and over again..This is something I need to deal with so that I can stay as positive as possible as it relates to the health issue's I am currently facing.. Red..

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Sounds great Red! I'm hearing you know exactly what is helping you and you are doing what you need to do in order to get healthy. Good for you, I'm proud of you too for making this choice!

Just checked out your blog; it's a great tool for journalling. Our moderating tools don't allow for us to easily check online blogs but I will try to check in on yours.

Take care,

Ashley, Health Educator

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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Good Morning Ashley!

Thank you for sending positive energy my way..

Yesterday I decided to distance myself from the negative energy in my life and today I am rested, full of energy and ready to take on the challenges ahead of me..I realized that what I was doing was giving all of my energy away and forgot to save some for myself. So now I am saving my postive energy and putting it back into myself and it is making a hugh diffenence in the way I feel..I am so proud of myself for not caving in and for taking care of myself..I have also taken to journeling about me experience on my blog..So if you are interested you can catch a update on how I am doing there..This journeling is really helping me to understand myself and my feeling in a way that I was never able to do before...I am also very interested in reading up on the topic your suggested about positive visualization and illness..I will do a search on line and see what I come up with..Thank you for steering me in the right direction as always..

You can catch on my blog for now...I look forward to talking to again soon...

Red..

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

I'm so glad that helped Red!

You are right, focusing on your physical health is important right now. Positivity certainly helps with illness in my opinion. Have you done any reading on positive visualizations and illness? I don't know much about it but I am a strong believer in the power the mind has over the body. It might be something positive for you to look into when you are up for it?

Keep us updated on how you are doing. As always, sending positive energy your way.

Ashley, Health Educator

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12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hello Ashley,

Thank you for the response..

Your assessment is correct..Yes I do think I do this. I already knew it was a problem. I don't do it as much as I used to but I am still doing it and I think it is beginning to have a negative effect on both my emotional and physical health at this point..As you know I have some very serious health problems at the moment..Like you suggested we can talk about this more at a later date..For now I need to stay as positive as possible and retain all the positive energy that I can for myself. My goal for now is to get myself physically well.

You asked me how I was able to recognize this and what the light bulb moment was..For me it was reading your response to a post of mine under the thread titled Obsessive worrying..You signed off by saying you were sending positive energy my way. That was it..That one statement got me to thinking about positive energy and how your positive response and positive energy affected me and how it made me feel so much more positive about my situation..It left me full of hope and strength and began to feel that I could tackle the health issues I was and am having now..I realized then that I needed to surround myself with as much positive energy as possible if I want to get well and beat this thing, that needed to limit my exposure to negative energy so that I can get well..

Talk to again soon..

Red...

12 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hi Red,

This is an important realization. It is always important to seek out positive energy.

I have noticed in the past you are very sensitve to other peoples energies. This could be due to a lot of things but I think it might be due to your compassionate and intuitive nature; you are taking on other peoples pain as your own. Do you think this could be true?

If this is the case I think you are on the right track but if you wanted to gain even more learning from this it might be very helpful for you to learn how to distance yourself from negative energy. First recognizing that it is present is the first step, then recognizing it is not yours is also important. Sometimes just pointing out to yourself that the negativity you feel is coming from another source and not from yourself is enough to distance yourself. But we can talk about this more when you are ready. Right now I think your goal sounds like a good idea.

How were you able to recognize this? What made the light bulb go off?

Ashley, Health Educator

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