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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Bren

Very well put. What is old anyway. Some people never get the chance to be old and that is a bigger tragedy. I intend to enjoy my age. With it came wisdom and experience and a whole lot of things to look back on and enjoy. You can't have those without age. I have found too that with the right attitude I can put the pain on the shelf most days and just get on with it. In the end the day is still mine and what I get out of it is my choice. I think you and me have learned to appreciate life and just live it. Really what else can we do.

Davit

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 424

Debora,

I know i am getting older,i have many aces and pains in my body!

But...i want to look and be the the best i can at my age i am right now..

Ageing is normal,and we all do it, like it or not..

I get up evry morning,and i am so thankful for the day!

I keep busy as much as i can,iam not a couch patato!

I walk,i read,love my family..

I do accept myself right now,and were i am in my life today!

Bren

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

Wow thanks Davit that gave me encouragement! You sound like you keep very busy which I know is probably a good thing when you are busy you have less time to think about things, I notice when I am busy that kind of works too. I take tylenol too on occasion I so hate meds so I dont take it often but if I really need it I do, it takes the edge off, its only .325 miligrams I should probably take two so they would work better, I am not scared of tylenol but sometimes it only works so much for me.

You're projects sound good you are a good handyman and thats good, my husband is too, but lately not so much because of his health issues but look at you with the arthritis and you keep going, I gotta stop thinking about age I just want to live and be happy!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

I'm 60 and so bent and twisted from arthritis that I sleep in a hospital bed. It doesn't stop me. I'm building a deck today and have two posts in and the outer frame nailed to it. I'm cheating and using a power (air) nailer. I'll admit it is not much done for six hours but two more days will see it done if nothing goes wrong. I have to stop and sit often and some I can do sitting. 50 is not old for normal people. It is if you have Arthritis for the last twenty some years. I have neighbours in there seventies that are in better shape than I was at forty. I'd love to be 50 again. At 56 I built a tall 24x24 shop by myself. It took me four months. Next spring I am going to build an addition on our house. This time I will get help. But I'm still going to do it. Most days I feel off a bit so on good days I enjoy them. The feeling of accomplishment outweighs the feeling of pain. Me and Mr. Tylenol are good friends. Just do it. 50 isn't 40 anymore, but it isn't dead either. It isn't old either.

Davit

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

Thanks for you're inspiring post Hugs. I know I do see seniors out and about leading active productive lives so that gives me hope. Actually it was not turning 50 that did this, it was what happened a month later last year, my husband even made a joke "welcome to old age" and I actually laughed and said "speak for yourself" at that time this panic disorder was in remission so I could kind of let it go as a joke, a month after I turned 50 Hugs I got a terrible flu, then bronticis, then an ovarian cyst burts, then another relaspe of broncitis, I was shaky but managed to get through it somehow but then I got blood clot in my leg, and all bets were off anotherwords, that was life-threatning, that was scary, and I broke down and the panic's came back with a vengence, that is how this all started, I did not {at the time} even think 50 was old, just like 40 or 45, but the health problems{and I know it was just a coincidence} a month after 50 and all this happened in 7 short weeks, and I got scared and started to question my own mortality, my health, and when the panic came my sanity and life, I wish I could of handled it better, but I did not, all those health problems in such a short span and I got so scared and terrified, it just so happened it was right after I turned 50 but it could of happened earlier or later I know, I think thats why I think like this.

I could not go to the grotto tonight Hugs, and I was disapointed, it is raining so bad here and my husband should not probably drive on the pain killer he is on for his absessed tooth {he gets it pulled tommorow and gets dentures so I am a little anxious about that too} I love the prayer chapel and grotto, its so peaceful and I feel relaxed and calm but with the weather and his condition it was dangerous to venture out, my Aunt says I can pray just as well at home and I know that is true, thank you so much for praying for me Hugs, I pray for you and the others also, that meant so much too me when you said you and the others pray for me, I know Sunny does too, thank you for you're prayers and caring and good advice.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4027

As I've aged, I've tried to assure others of my "relationship" theory of relativity. We all are comparably attractive to each other since there are so many of us continuing, so we have to continue to care for ourselves.

I work out with many seniors who are fit, and if you look at Tai Chi classes,they are full of youthful seniors, as are many other classes.

A number of us pray for you, Debora, so hopefully you didn't venture out in the rain to the Grotto

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

Thank You Josie.

I have heard 50 is the new 40 and I want to believe that! You are correct if my "mindset" is "Oh no I am 50 and old and feel sick and weak" My mind will be telling my body that and that is what I do not want. I think I am nervous about my husband's sugery tommorow, he is not only getting his absessed tooth pulled but ALL his teeth to get dentures and he had to go off his plasvix, which is a heavy duty blood thinner for a few days, his cardiologist is concerned about this, "risky" he called it so I know some of my anxiey today is due too that, also as I mentioned in another post, I woke today with a great big fat swollen gland in my neck under the chin, which I hardly ever get, and I think I may have a touch of a UTI, which I am trying to flush out with lots of water, I just wish I had some cranberry juice. I hope I dont have to go on antibotics for either, I cannot get sick now with my husband needing me strong after surgery, the pain in my stomach is scaring me. One of us has to be up and running for our special-needs son, I wanted to go to the prayer chapel and grotto tonight to light a candle and pray but the weather is horrible! I have to relax and not worry about my husband and my gland and urinary problems, heres hoping this too will all pass, I will try not too think of myself as old and unhealthy Josie, that probably is not helping matters at all.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

deb,

That's just it...there is hope for you! If your neighbour can do it..why can't you? What would make you feel better? A work out routine, exercise, walking, eating better, more water!

Everything is doable and yes things may slow down a bit, but it is what you make of it. If you continue to think your done and there is no hope, this negative attitude will take over. Start small and make little changes to your mind and body..kind of like exposure therapy. The changes will be manageable and will become more noticeable.

I foresee you on this positive track, take it one day at a time...50 is the new 40..what are you waiting for!

Josie, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 542

I wanted to run something past everyone if thats alright, I need advice and information. My husband {on many occasions} has told me "you are getting older you are fifty you are NOT going to feel like you are 30 or 40 just accept old age!} This really bothers me when he says it. I was talking to my neighbor today, she is a year older than me, she is thin, works and is active and she says she feels terrible, on many meds for fibromylgia, athritis, blood pressure etc..... and I look at her and I am amazed she is a normal weight, works full-time and is active and seems too have energy! What hope is there for me then?

Is this just a normal part of aging too feel weak tired and depressed? I did not think at fifty but first my husband now my neighbor is saying it, I really did not think fifty was "the beginning of the end" until the panic and depression came back and health problems {cyst, blood clot and double broncitis} thats what started this "thing" again, and the symptoms send my health anxiety into high gear! I am afraid to go get blood work yet, just the mere thought sends me shaking, I mean should I just accept it that I am getting older and I am not going to feel good? Am I trying to feel 25 again and its just not going to be?

Like today for example I woke up utterly exhausted after nine hours sleep, with a big swollen gland in my neck, and I am running to the bathroom every 15 minutes, which I am hoping is nerves, I ate a lot of garlic last night but I heard thats good for urine and colon, could it of caused an irritation? I mentioned my husband is having surgery tommorow and I must NOT get sick especially now, I am trying to focus on the positive, going shopping and out to dinner last night, but these symptoms of the gland and urinary and tiredness seem to be "overshadowing" it. I wish I could rid myself of this health anxiety but its so hard. I think the doctors think "perimenopausal overweight lonely depressed housewife" and do not take me seriously. Should I just accept feeling bad for awhile and hope for the best? I cannot believe my life and health are over at fifty! That is scary.

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