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Positive Thinking, Part II


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Gestalt guru Fritz Perls stated, that if you can frame the question, you have the answer.  With uneasiness, some people tend to pop off questions, without pausing, but that part of the "condition" we share. 
 
I notice this with these forums, where many of the answers are in the glossary of this site, and there is also a section where a certified, respected Expert(top of the toolbar) Dr Farvolden has an archive of questions.  Outside of this site, there are many reputable resources too.
 
I used to ask questions for information when I really wished emotional support or rapport, but now I've become better. I have to work on something called core beliefs so I don't feel helpless.  It's hard to navigate using the internet when  your nervous system isn't speaking to your fingers. 
 
I feel ashamed to think how wired I was in the past, and now...I have finite energy and have to pace myself, as life races by...oh well:(
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Yeah, some people see questions as authoritarianism. They react like, "Who ARE you to have a right to be the one to DEMAND an answer??"
I always regarded the skill of asking a good question as brilliant because the right one would point to a very different answer than the wrong question. Honing a Good Question was a pastime of mine.
You're right that many people have now degraded questioning into being a sign you don't know the obvious answer that everyone else knows. 
I've had similar reactions to.. .guess what.... handing out compliments! Go figure. But the same "who are you that I would care if you like it or not?" sort of thing.
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Red,
It's great when someone asks the same question.  I was always the brave one in class who asked the questions, but it backfired in the most recent work environment where asking questions was seen as being unacceptable, and a source of ridicule...funny since I began my career in the same company where it was okay.
 
The culture changed I guess.
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Samantha,
 
I have the same questions too.
 
Red.
 
 
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Samantha,
Did you already begin this last Thursday March 10, or are you beginning this today?
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To all the Educators,
 
This is a great idea...I think this will really help me....I am really looking forward to this...
 
 
Thank you,
 
Red.
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Members,
Welcome to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Day (CBT) on the forums!

Every Sunday and Thursday will now be known as CBT day.

Every Sunday a PC health educator will launch a challenge. Members are encouraged to take on the challenge and post their results. On the following Thursday, a PC educator will post specific tips and strategies to aid you in the way you look/interpret yourself and the way you view the world.
This week we had you track how many positive thoughts you were having each day. Below are some tips on how to increase those numbers. Enjoy!
•    Think about the strengths, skills and abilities you have that can help you in your situation. (This is particularly important if you have identified that you have a tendency to ignore the positive.)
•    Think about the external resources you can pull in to help. This might mean calling a taxi if you are late for a flight, or asking for some extra help if you are up against a tight work deadline, or having problems understanding something before an exam.
•    When you are focused on your own fears and anxieties it can be easy to overlook some of the resources that are available - so make a conscious effort to appraise them.
•    If the task seems overwhelming, try breaking it down into smaller chunks and facing these chunks one by one - ticking off your progress as you go.
•    Check to see if you can make any compromises (particularly important if you tend towards 'all or nothing' thinking). Are there any elements of what you feel you have to achieve that are actually non-essential (if desirable)? Consider leaving them out for the time being, and coming back to them if you have time.
•    Check that you aren't blowing the situation out of proportion (especially if you think you sometimes tend to exaggerate or over-dramatize).
Challenge your thoughts to assess how realistic they really are. There will be help with this through the rest of this section.
•    If your negative thoughts are based on something you can't do anything about, then they aren't useful. And if they aren't useful, then it's time to stop focusing on them.
•    Fake it until you make it! The simple act of smiling and laughing can help lift your mood and make it easier for you to see your world in a positive light.
•    Begin each morning off on the right foot. Begin each day by naming everyone and everything you are grateful for. You can also alternate with naming each person you love and what exactly you love about them.

We hope this post has been of help to you. We now encourage members to share their tips, post comments or ask questions!

Samantha, Health Educator

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