Helena, Health Educator
Tina
The view of my core belief I expressed before came from a so-called expert in the field my therapist. He told me I no uncertain terms that core belief come from childhood when as you say you cannot express yourself at the time to get what you need. I notice a lot of talk about right and wrong in what to do to address panic attack. I know people that go through 18 sessions with a CBT and come out with no attacks and maybe a few in the remainder of their life. So attacking core beliefs is not always necessary to get rid of panic attack for everyone. To say that everyone has to expose themselves to their core beliefs to get better is a core belief of what need to be done to get better. If you thought all you needed to do was to address your relationship problem to get rid of a panic attacks then this is a core belief and it should work. Davit, do not get me wrong I believe that I do have to but not all people do. Just like medication different type’s work for different people.
What would you say if you were not a child but an adult unable to express his need because he does not know what they were could a negative core belief come from that. In addition, I have had anxiety all your life, could not having the anxiety cause some of the core beliefs the longer you let it go untreated. For example in your case about asking someone out and, you thought you were unlovable could the thought that you were unlovable come from trait anxiety all the time tainting every experience? I have had this discussion before and been told rejection is a part of life but if you are anxious all the time are you not likely to taint this rejection in a negative way. Therefore, the trait anxiety causes your negative core belief.
What if you know things happened in your child hood but could not remember them happening I am not talking about abuse. Could this be a problem area because I know that I developed an anxiety towards reading when in school but I cannot remember developing it?
I have expressed the thought that too much searching in your past may be counterproductive an educator said you do not always have to know why to change it. Case in fact as a toddler I used to bang my head against everything I am sure I can find an article that says banging your head is normal. Or I can read into my life that as far as I can remember I had anxiety, so was I trying to express my frustration when I was a child because I could not express myself or was I just a normal child banking his head for no particular reason.
If you were to ask me, I would say I could not remember why I did it but I can look for negative core beliefs, look back, and say I must have had a problem even then. Further evidence for this belief is I was told that I cried all the time. I am no expert but can this not be what is called colic. I just looked up Wikipedia about colic babies and it says there is no identifiable reason for it that medical science can tell use. It leaves clues behind about what it does to a family and how the family or mother might mistreat the baby from being distressed all the time. Another piece of information is that my father told me he saw my mother dragging my brother by the arm because he would not do what she wanted. Since I was home alone as a baby without my father being there is it possible that she did something wrong. I doubt abuse but I know there probably was no parental attempt to calming the baby. If I am right I cannot remember so how can I challenge this thought that I have deduced from hindsight. One last statement I always felt as if I did not have my mother approval or love.
Therefore, if this is the case to I tie to go back to when I was a baby and try to find a core belief. I have been reading a book on nuro-plasticity and it says that even thought you might not remember now you still have the memories even as I toddler. The author gives an example of how one of his patients lost his mother when he was young and he need up regressing into a child like state when he had an epiphany that he felt the loss as a baby but not as an adult.
Finally just how far do we carry this core belief thing, because as one person said I might think I am going to have a bad day once in a blue moon a negative thought but if I was otherwise mental and physical all right then every negative thought cannot be related to a core belief.
Dizzy
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