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13 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Phoenix

It could be that you just need to talk. We are here, we are listening. Keep posting.

Davit.
13 years ago 0 9 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I appreciate everything that everyone has said. I think I feel like my fears aren't warranted because when I try and look at situations realistically there's nothing wrong with them. It makes me sad to see everybody else excited about things and I'm anxious. I really do think that I know what is wrong and what to do, but I've always had to talk things out and then all of a sudden the answer pops right out. I know it takes a while to change your way of thinking, though. The funny thing is that I know all about law of attraction and positive thinking, but yet I still have a problem worrying. That's definately something I want to change.
 
I'm not trying to people please. I learned long ago that life is not only about pleasing others. No, it hurts when my husband talks about how strong I am because I felt like I was stronger years ago. I was in the military and went through a lot and I did it on my own. So it was upsetting me to feel like I was letting something like anxiety keep me down. After reading just the first section I know now that I'm not alone, I'm not weird, it's not that bad, and I'm not helpless. I already calmed myself out of a few potential attacks today. Yah!!
13 years ago 0 420 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Phoenix,
 
Welcome to the group and program.  When I answered the questions on the test here on the site my results said that I was agoraphobic with no panic and that it was a rare condition and that I have avoidance issues plus ptsd.  I wouldn't let the test results discourage you from working the program.  I have been working the program and participating in the group since January and my condition has improved.  I still have a long ways to go, it just takes time.  I didn't get this way over night so I am not going to get well over night.  Please take your time with program and most of all be patient with yourself.  That is my advice to you when working the program.  You do sound anxious about the move with your husband to another state.  I myself would find a move hard.  Maybe if you try the 10 questions list it will help you challenge some of your anxious thoughts regarding the move.  One thing about this support group is that no matter where you move as long as you are on line you will have someone to talk to and you won't feel as alone when you move.  Some one is usually on line and if not one of the Educators will answer your questions and try to help.  Hang in their girl, you will get through this and we will help.
 
Semper fi,
 
Red
13 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Phoenix

It appears that you know the problem and the answer. Good. What are you going to do about it? You can't stumble through life like this. A little anxiety when you travel or do something new is normal. Can you always get mad and tell it to go away? Are you looking for something you already have? If you don't think you are strong enough, say so. Trying to be something your not will just cause more worry and anxiety. No, the best way to live your life is to be happy with yourself. Do you like who you are? What would you change. What changes would make you a happy care free person.
Hate is a very strong, negative word. I prefer to dislike something. Do you hate not feeling strong or being strong. See here you get into the realm of people pleasing and that can cause depression.  If you are happy with who you are then it is easier to accept the things you don't like about yourself. How do you plan on worrying less and enjoying more. I think you have the answers you just have to write them down so they become obvious.

Davit.
13 years ago 0 2606 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Phoenix,
 
Thank you for sharing this with us. Work through the program and use the sessions that seem most appropriate for you. Learn the relaxation techniques and practice deep breathing. As Davit mentioned post often, be a part of the group and we will be here to support you! You are strong, being here you are taking the right step! Be proud of yourself for being here.

Why do you feel there are no basis to your fears? Why do you feel your fears are unwarranted?
 
 
 
 



Samantha, Health Educator
13 years ago 0 9 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Haha...I'm not frowning at all. I have a sister-in-law that is very forward and will tell you what you need to, but may not always want, to hear. I have found over the years that the best way to live your life is to truly know yourself. Trust me, I know I'm a worry wort and that I dwell on EVERYTHING. I over-analyze as well.
The killer part is that I know that all my fears are unwarranted. There is no basis to them. I've had a great life and never really had anything bad happen to me. Do you know why my anxiety went away when I got mad at myself? I've already found myself feeling better having just read the first section. I think I was in such a hurry to change because my husband always tells me that he loves my strength and right now I don't feel very strong. I hate it. 
13 years ago 0 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Phoenix

You are looking for something specific and rigid that you can grab hold of. Anxiety doesn't work that way. It flexes with the situation. Yes you are agoraphobic, but even worse, you worry and I think you dwell on things. I also think that since you are going into something new that you are worried that you can't make it work. Worry is negative and breeds anxiety. No the program is not specific but you will focus more on the parts that are more specific to your situation but you do have to do the whole thing. There are no shortcuts and there are no magic bullets. And it will take time, lots of time. It does work. You have a lot of negative that has to be replaced with positive. I would bet that you are reading this with a frown on your face. Never mind the questions, accept that you are agoraphobic and worry too much and work on those two things for now. When you can handle those then you can work on the little more specific things. Learn the relaxation techniques so you can travel. And post often. Be part of this group. We can help you. and we will be here for you.

Davit.
13 years ago 0 9 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
The only reason I say this is because a lot of the answers were yes or no. Some of my experiences are situational. Also, my most recent mood changes have been due to situational depression, because my husband was away in basic training. Now that we're going to be together again my mood is much better. I don't know. I just feel like a lot of the questions are really hard to answer accurately. It somehow understood that I am agoraphobic with no anxiety. That's probably because in most of the questions about how it affects your life it asks about "your daily life". Well, I don't panic on a daily basis. I only panic when I'm about to travel. I just recently came back from my husband's basic training graduation and I was a mess for most of the trip. I got nauseus in the cab on the way to the airport,  I was nauseus, tense, and shaking the whole flight there. Same symptoms before and during the family day ceremony, before the graduation...until I got angry at myself and then it went away till I had to take him back to his company because I knew I wouldn't see him again for a week or so. It was fairly easy to calm myself down for the flight home but I think it's because I was going home.
 
I'm about to relocate to AZ to be with my husband and I'm worried about panicking during the two day drive and panicking just because I'm moving so far away from where I've always called home. I want to be excited! It's the start of mine and my husband's life together ALONE...I just don't want to be like this anymore. I worry that because of the way I answered the questions that my treatment won't be effective, because wasn't the treatment set specifically to you based on how you answered the questions?

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