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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 124

Hi Red,

Just a suggestion from past experience. When me and my partner were having difficulties and considering parting ways we decided to try to work things out. In order to do this, we each wrote a list of what we needed from the relationship for it to work and a separate list of things that needed to stop for the relationship to work. We both went over our lists together, and compromised on certain issues and strategized together on how to make those lists a reality. All that to say that communication is a HUGEEEE part of all this, no doubt you've heard that before. But I can assure you that this conversation saved our relationship.

Keep us posted!

SIM

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

princesspat,

Me Too!! Thank you for your input and support. I can really relate to what you are saying.

Good Advice!!

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Shadowkins,

Thank you for your response and support. I will try to remember to put myself first. Its kind of a new concept for me and I am still working on it.

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Davit,

Your so right Compromise is hard to spell and hard to do. I am working on it though. I don't give up easily?

Thanks for standing by me and for being a true friend

Your Friend,

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

I'm glad to see that you will both try to work things out, that a good start but be sure that you care for you first (I should practice what I preach)

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All the best!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 113

I agree with you Red when you say that no one is perfect, so often in my relationship before I criticize my "other" half I have to stop and look at myself, and think of how I am acting, or reacting to what is happening. This has really helped me get to know myself better, and change some things which I did not like about myself .What I can say, I'm still a work in progress!

Whatever your choice may be, just remember, to do what is best for you!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 6252

Red.

Compromise! Such a big word, hard to spell and hard to do. If you mix lemons with sugar you no longer have either but if you add a little water you have something very nice indeed. All good relationships call for compromise, and just like lemons and sugar they are not always 50 / 50. I'm still sure that what you do will be right.

Your friend

Davit.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 420

Update,

We have decided that one of us moving out was not going to solve our problems that we would just be running from the issues so we are going to stay together for now and try to work things out. Anxiety and depression sure can take a toll on a relationship. I am not willing to give up hope on myself or the relationship yet. I think with a lot of hard work that maybe both are savable. No one and nothing is perfect in this life and I need to learn to enjoy what I do have even with all the imperfections. Of course I do understand that it will take both parties to make it work. I would really like to get better and try to save the relationships that I do have left. It reminds me of a book of poems that I have titled "If Only I Knew" because sometimes you really don't know what you had did you have lost it and then it is to late to get it back.

Red

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 517

Hi Red,

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's going to be 1 1/2 years since my separation and 8 months since my divorce. There are many days or times of the day that I remember things and become depressed or enraged still, but I've accepted that this is how it is going to be for me after a heartbreak. I'm there too.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hi Red,

I am sorry to hear that you and your partner have decided to break up. As Davit mentioned, it is alright to be sad about this. Dealing with a break up can be an emotional experience, with time it will get easier. We will all be here for you to support you through this, you can definitely always count on us to lend an ear. We are always listening Red!

Samantha, Health Educator

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