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Challenging worry


14 years ago 0 30 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
He loves it,
 
He has been putting in long days but  hasn't complain at all. When  he comes home is so excited to tell how his day went.  My husband is a very hard worker  who is in prime shape.  When they hired him, he was just to be a labour.  What they call the bottom man on the totem pole.  He has already surprised them with knowledge and strength.  His second day on the job he was the skipper of the boat.  His third day he was running the backhoe.  So much for being the gopher boy.
 
Your question was how did we get through this?
Well in our town jobs are hard to find.  There are a lot of people seeking work right now.  My husband had applied to countless places with no call backs.  This was fusturating knowing our funds are low.  Yes it caused panic, but in a different way.  The panic would come at the end of the day when I realized its to late for anyone to call now.  Yes I shed tears to him and said what are we going to do.  I told him that all of the help you are giving to your friends and other by fixing their cars you will have to start charging them.  I told him because our Hydro bill is to high to run our garage and all the power tools and welders.  So he did.  He brought in money that way but it still wasn't enough. I told him instead of sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring, go out there and reapply and ask to speak to the supervisor and personally hand them your resume.  I told him for every door that closes open up two more.  And bam finally he got the call.  I was stressed about this but not panicked, if that makes any sense.  Once I knew he got a job it felt like 100 pounds came off my shoulders.  I think being supportive and having a positive look at things helped both of us.
 
Colleen
14 years ago 0 11215 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you for sharing! You did get through it! 
 
 How is your husband enjoying his new job?
Ashley, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 30 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
How I distinguished Type I or Type II ,
 
Title:Husband lost his job
Type I
We live with in means and not on credit
My husband is a hard worker
My husband was seeking work
My husband would be an asset to any company
My husband never gave up
And finally, I believe in him
 
Type II
We were used to a duel income
How will we survive
Why hasn't anyone phone him back on a job
Funds are running low
15 months have past and no work
Whats going to happen to us and are home
 
Type I was easier to concentrate on..
Type I was got us through it
Type I made us work harder
Type I is why he got a job
 
Thats  how I tell the difference
Colleen
 
14 years ago 0 2606 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Members,

There are a number of CBT techniques that are commonly used to help people challenge worry including: thought records, thought stopping, worry time, challenging the value of worry, problem solving, experiments to increase intolerance of uncertainty and cognitive exposure. Let’s take a look at them one at a time:
Problem Solving: One of the problems with worries is that they can often seem like “real problems” rather than worries. Many people who worry find the problem solving techniques to be very helpful in challenging worries. Learning how to tell the difference between Type I and Type II problems is a good start. You can divide your worries into Type I and Type II Problems.
Remember the following rules:

Type I Problems
(life problems in the here and now)   

Need to be solved
Can not be delayed
Are not about the future
May involve people you know
May involve daily situations

Type II Problems
(negative thoughts and cognitive distortions)
   
Vague statements
Worries about the self
Worries about other people
Worries about the world
Worries about the future

When people are depressed or anxious it‘s hard to tell the difference between a Type I and a Type II problem. However, if you can identify your worries as being about Type I and Type II Problems you can use CBT techniques for worry to deal with the Type II problems and problem solving techniques to deal with Type I Problems.
If you worry a lot, the best strategy is to assume that your Worries are Type II problems. However, even worry warts can have very real Type I problems that need to be solved.
Does this strategy work for you?

Samantha, Bilingual Health Educator

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