What a great way of looking at success, something that only you can define for yourself. It seems that you have a very positive attitude and outlook on life, hang on to it!
thanks for your comments Birdie. I can relate to doing comparisons, sometimes guilty in both directions. Better than, less than, superior, inferior. The greatest decision is to just consider all equal.
And I learned long ago that Success is something that only you can define for yourself. Some people buy into some stereotype of success. If a greenpeace boat blocks a whaler from killing a whale, that is their success. Did they acquire a car or money? Success for many on the forum is overcoming obstacles that others may value less, but we can measure our successes on our own scale.
I ran my first triathlon many years ago. I was dead last. You can only imagine how successful I felt for just finishing. Success these days is just getting to work every day. Sometimes I don't feel that I accomplish as much as I should, but my job coach says to think in small increments of improvement.
I'm always assuming the worst will happen. So I would like to try and challenge that. Not sure if that goes along with the idea of negative core belief but it's something I just really became aware of. I will project that I will fail at something new instead of looking at how I might succeed. It's really something I need to address cause I think that feeds my anxiety. I've really had lots of wonderful successes and I think people would look at my life on the out side and think I am very successful. I really do have a wonderful family, job and home BUT, I always am questioning my ability to measure up to others and assuming someone else is better qualified then I am.
Members,
Now that you’ve had an opportunity to take a look at what some of your negative core assumptions are, it’s time to start working on developing healthier core assumptions. Here are a few guidelines to follow:
One of the biggest problems is working on too many negative core assumptions at a time. Try to stick with one at a time.
Remember, your negative core beliefs have been with you for a long time and it will take some time to change them. This is a long-term project.
Keep your goals reasonable & reachable. If you think you’re “unlovable” today, you won’t become perfectly lovable next week. Instead decide what lovable means to you. Does being more lovable mean having more friends? Never being alone?
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