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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 101

I can relate to everyones comments in some way. I think outwardly no one would know I don't feel comfortable with some people. I put up a good front but lack of confidence has always been an issue for me. Even though I think people wouldn't say that I seem fearful. I married an alcoholic and drug user in my 20's. What I had for self esteem was destroyed by verbal and emotional abuse. Now that I've moved on from that relationship, got some healthier thinking, I'm much more confident but not always in social situations. I was abandoned a lot by my ex-husband and some of that has stuck with me even though I'm remarried to a wonderful man. I feel like I'm having to unlearn a lot of old ideas that have harmed me. It's like touching the hot stove, once you've done it you know it will hurt if you touch it again!

Birdie

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 477

I had a best friend from 6 months old and we were best friends until we started to realize who we were. I am much of an introvert, she was really outgoing. Middle school was the worse. Since she made may other friends besides me she decided we hang out with the popular kids. I didn't feel comfortable at all.. all they talked about was which boys you liked and what your wore. So after my best friend became a cheerleader and was too busy for me I went off to another group of people. I changed groups about 3 or 4 times until I graduated. But ever since I was a little girl... I am the quiet one. I love to listen but I hate to talk. I was that girl in the corner of the room who you never really noticed that existed. But I did ok as in grades and my grades are better now in college. I love to learn. My mom was scary when she disciplined us... I always thought she was always right so I tried my best to be the perfect child... whereas my sister always rebelled and expressed herself. I think it all pretty must started there for me having no confidence in my opinions. I was terrifed of conflict.. I still am, maybe even more! I hated watching my sister and mom argue.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1153

Thanks to all those that shared their school experiences. How have you been able to deal with these types of social situations as you've grown and become more aware of your anxiety or panic? Has working through the PC program or other programs helped you to deal with some of your social anxieties?

Brenna, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 138

I had a peculiar existence at high school. It was like I was trying to please as many groups as possible. Some might say I was one of the brainiacs taking all the science and math courses. Others may think I leaned towards athletism participating in the track and basketball teams. Then there were the less savoury groups that I tried to stay chummy with.

I can recall when I would be faced with people from conflicting groups and realized just how much of a varied mask I would wear depending on which facade I was projecting. In many ways, my tendency to isolate started early and using avoidance as a coping technique showed up too.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 778

Hated School , just hated it . I had two great friends who hated each other so had to split myself between them .

Was picked on from junior to senoir school . One by a teacher aged 10 , she made that year HELL . Just because my parents were Jehovah Witnesses . I was a quiet kid but she said i was talking and made me stand on a chair in front of the class so many times . It was hulmilating and degrading , noone else ever had to do this .

I was picked on by other kids till i left school because of religion .

I left home at 18 just so i didnt have to go to that church !!!!! Since then my folks left to .

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 101

Not sure what I think of that study, there must be something to it...I would think if you're not excepted it would be very difficult!

I was the middle of the road kid. I got along with the popular kids, the preps, the geeks, the city kids and the country kids. But I wouldn't say all my experiences were great. Rejection of any kind isn't easy. I have a daughter in high school now and she is

doing great! I don't see any signs of depression or anxiety that would concern me. It's definitely something I keep an eye on cause it runs on both sides of her family!

Birdie

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2101

I had trouble adapting to school. My grades were good and the teachers liked me but I wasn'T popular by far. I was emotional and afraid and full of angst. I hung out with a great bunch of girls but when it came to the cool crowd I was definetely a social reject. I had so much trouble in high school I used to stay home all the time. I had a burn-out in my fourth year of high school. To this day I HATE high school. Was horrible! That is my take on high school.

-Diva

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 313

This is interesting...

I "belonged" to the right group...did the right things (great grades, cheerleader captain etc.) yet always felt as though I didn't really fit quite right. I was from out of district and started fresh in grade 8 and always felt a bit of animosity from some of the girls.. the boys were great ...lol.. So that being said.. I worried all the time inside about pleasing everyone around me so that I wasn't singled out... Pathetic... There were a lot of great people that I didn't "hang" with out of fear of being tossed from my own crowd.. I didn't have the courage to be me.

Our daughter is entering the "tweens" almost 10 and she has so much confidence in who she is already. She knows what she wants out of her friends and has the ability to stand up to them and voice her opinion.. She often goes against the grain for what she believes and I love that... She does it so naturally that people just accept that about her. I hope this helps her to avoid the angst I felt.. A little bit is normal.. what I felt was terrible.

Well theres my two bits on this..

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Members,

A recent study conducted by researchers at the University of Minnesota & Vermont have found that there seems to be a link between social acceptance and the incidence of depression & anxiety.

According to their findings, teens who were readily accepted by peers were less likely to internalize emotions and develop anxiety or depression in young adulthood.

What do you think? What was high school like for you? Did you have trouble connecting to others? What solutions do you believe may help youth today?

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

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