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Hi Angel, first of all - a big congratulations for already making it to week 4 of the program!! I truly believe CBT (really dedicating yourself to it and investing yourself in it) is the ONLY way to regain control of this disorder. About your goals, I think the main question is - are you feeling more in control and more confident when you master the goals you have set? If yes, then your goals are working (like how you said you drive daily with your sister or to school etc); if not, then your goals may not be challenging enough. For example, if you have set a goal of driving a fair distance, is that because you are affraid to do that, and that fear is helping to fuel your anxiety? If so, then is it driving alone or driving with someone that causes the fear? Decide what is causing the fear, and then make that your goal - as long as it is challenging enough to make you feel more in control when you accomplish it - but not so challenging that you are not ready to tackle it quite yet and doing so too quickly will just set you back. Basically, you just need to plan goals that, once accomplished, make you feel like you are making real headway against this disorder. If they don't do that - if they just feel like your usual every-day stuff, then they are not really goals and you should re-assess them and beef them up. But do take the program at your own pace, make sure you have enough goals accomplished and under your belt to make you feel confident enough to move on in the program. That's my advice anyways. The two most important parts of CBT for me have been learning the techniques to control and challenge your thoughts, and the focus on goal setting as a tool to master the anxiety and lay it to rest. Caitlin
18 years ago 0 375 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi everyone. I dont' know if this will sound silly. But i'm having a hard time working on my goals. the reason is, I know that I should not advance to week 5 of the program yet until i have started working on my goals. And so i haven't moved on yet (its been 3 weeks already). But, i am finding it difficult to plan time to actually reach my step by step goals. For example, one of my goals is to be able to go in the car with my family or friends and travel a fair enough distance. My steps go in order (from least fearfull to most). BUT.....i am not actually planning time to do each step because I am driving most of the day to school or some other function......sometimes I drive alone or with my sister or something. But could this be part of reaching my car goal? Or does it actually have to be planned? I dont know if i'm making sense. But my point is, I am doing some of the steps befroehand because I am going in the car with them ANYWAYS because I HAVE to go to functions with them. But is this part of my goal? or am i skipping to many steps? I'm just having a hard time figuring out how to start this goal because i seem to run in a car situation everday. Such as going to mall with mom etc. But i dont' use this as my step because i didnt' do the step before this one (of going to the mall with my mom). Do u undertand or not? I just dont' know if i have to finish allllllll of my goals before i progress to week 5. Plz help! :quest:

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