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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Wow Ashley, you've asked some tough questions. I would like to aim for only drinking on Friday nights since that is my daughters night to spend with her grandparents. I haven't thought about the number of drinks I will allow myself or how I will curb the urge to drink more. I suppose this is going to require some more thought. Do I want to drink enough to feel tipsy? I can't tell a lie....yes I do. Do I know my limits? I'd say for the most part I do as long as I avoid drinking wine at home. That is always where the loss of control happens. If I'm at a restaurant I can limit myself quite easily.

Tonight I'm coping with the urge and distracting myself by working in the yard and visiting this site. I will definitely need to find things to keep me occupied. How do I stop myself from racing home from work and heading straight for that bottle of wine? Therein lies a huge challenge for me, and throwing it away won't help because I've tried that, I just make another trip to the liquor store.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Thecia....wine is a major weakness for me. I can't stop at just one glass and believe me the glasses are very large ones too. I just keep filling and filling the glass. I don't let it get empty. I can't even say whether I have three glasses or eight, it's always a full glass. I'm lucky that my personality doesn't change but, I'm afraid one day it will because my mom becomes evil when she drinks too much. I am on my third night of no alcohol and I admit it's a bit tough, however the benefit of not feeling guilty and crappy in the morning is incentive for me. Let's keep in touch and hopefully we can be each other support in this journey.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1

Hi Camiol,

Like you my weakness is wine in the evening when I have finished work. Last night I got into a row with my grown up daughter who lives nearby and she says she finds I change my personality after a few drinks. This is enough for me to want to cut down. I have resolved that from tomorrow I will try to go cold turkey and have no alcohol for 6 weeks. I understand that this is how long it takes the liver to recover from excessive drinking. I think I will log back on here regularly to get support.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Quitting smoking a a HUGE accomplishments and it will give you major health benefits

It sounds like you have a lot to motivate you to follow through this goal. Let's make your goal a bit more specific and measurable as this leads to a greater chance of success. How many and which nights will it be ok to drink? Exactly how many drinks will you allow yourself to have? If you complete this goal how will you reward yourself?

Also, if you have the urge to drink more how will cope with this urge or distract yourself?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Ashley....thank you or your reply and congratulating me on my 4 months smoke free. I feel great about it and surprisingly I don't miss it, not even when I drink and that surprises me a bit because when I did smoke, drinking alcohol made me smoke a lot heavier.

I would like to be able to just have a few drinks one night on the weekend and that would be that, I never drank through the week and I rarely drank on the weekends most of my life. It was very difficult being raised by an alcoholic mother, my parents divorced when I was 6 and I wished all my life that my dad would have raised me, he is not a smoker and he is definitely not a drinker. I am very close to my dad and just very recently stopped speaking to my mother. I have to admit its a bit of a relief and I think it will give me the strength to cut off the co dependency. I also think my determination to not be like my mother is going to help me achieve my goal.

My daughter is the main reason for my goal....I absolutely do not want to put her through the same emotional upset and shame that I've lived with most of my life. I also don't want to disappoint my father or husband, they are both so important to me. I've tried to keep it hidden from my husband but I don't think I've been successful. I've gone two full days without drinking and I hope tonight will bring me to day 3.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Hi Camiol,

Congrats on 4 months smoke free! And congrats on recognizing you want to take control of this.

Start by reading through the program and arm yourself with as much information as you can. Only you can decide an appropriate goal for yourself whether it is completely abstaining or cutting back. What would you like your goal to be?

Look around the forums as there are a lot of information here. Also, post often. We are here to support you. You are not alone in this.

What was it like to be raised by an alcoholic mother? How will this affect your goal?

What is it like to have a gorgeous daughter? How will this affect your goal?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi Everyone....I'm new to this site and hoping to find ways to change my drinking habits or possibly stop altogether. I was raised by an alcoholic mother who at the age of about 40 progressed to serious alcoholism. I promised myself that I would never be like her. Well here I am at the age of 46 and I feel my drinking is taking hold of my life. I have been drinking a lot more often in the past year and a half. It all started when I tried to quit smoking. I gave up one bad habit and gained another. I did start smoking again it the drinking didn't slow down. Today I'm celebrating 4 months smoke free and hopefully its forever this time, but I need to get control of alcohol. I don't drink everyday, but it's at least 3-4 times a week. White wine is my drink of choice and when I start drinking it, I can't stop. The next day I don't remember a lot of things from the night before. Last night being one of those nights.thankfully I don't go to bars, I drink at home but I do have a gorgeous 9 year old daughter and I don't want my drinking to affect her. I want to get this under control and be able to drink maybe once a week on the weekend. I'm sick of feeling crappy after a binge night and I am always angry and ashamed of myself the next day. I don't do anything I regret, but I do hate that I forget conversations I've had. I feel so much better when I don't drink and I'm well aware of this being a problem. I keep promising myself that I will stop but after 4 days maximum of not drinking, the urge is too strong and I cave in. I hope someone can provide some advice on how to get a handle on this. Thanks.

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