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Welcome Alpz,

Thank you for sharing. It takes a lot of courage to admit you have a problem. I am sorry to read your relationship with your wife is contributing to an already difficult situation. It is very common for a spouse to be resentful of their partner who is struggling with addiction. It is important for both of you to honestly communicate how you feel but also not to place blame on each other. It would be ideal if you could both focus your anger and frustration on the addiction instead. Sometimes couple's counseling and individual counseling can help with this. Do you think this may be something that could be helpful to you?

Either way, I am glad you came here for support. You will not have to tackle this alone. We will be here to support you every step of the way.


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I could relate to your experience, when I entered the rooms of aa, I was blaming everybody else, then understanding who the problem was helped me work the 12 steps and overcome alcoholism. 
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This is a bit difficult to introduce myself as i am very self conscious...even in writing lol.   I have an addiction problem.   I have had problems relying on alcohol to escape.  I have also had issues using many other substances to escape including things like adderall.  It causes a lot of issues with my spouse.  I  have tried to quit many times but my wife makes me feel horrible when i do.  This probably sounds weird but she will browbeat me when i drink and when I say I am going to quit she makes me feel like I am going to affect her socially. ie( making friends or having social gatherings).  She is constantly critical of me. I don't blame her for my problems but i do not feel like i can lean on her for support.  I feel like i am alone in this struggle and I am looking for support as i don't think i can do this by myself.  I thank you all for your time.  

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