At this point I'm attempting to limit to very occasional/moderate drinking. I have been at a couple of work events and not drank, but did attend a dinner with friends and had a glass of wine at dinner. It interesting seeing ppl intoxicated while sober, I don't like myself when I get passed that point of control and certainly don't miss the guilt or hangovers from bad night.
I feel it will be hard to explain cutting out completely in social settings but feel the drunken, black out states are something I want to completely avoid in the future. It's hard being seeing as the life of the party but once past that point embarrassing loved ones, being incoherent and unresponsive to normal things.
I'm doing it for myself, wife and kids - it's time to change!
It sounds like you are ready for a change. Are you planning to abstain completely or moderate? Either way it is often recommend to moderate for at least three months before attempting moderation.
Welcome to the forums. In AA they split the problem into 3 traits. Losing control after we put 1 or 2 drinks. Thats a problem. However the main problem is, our mind will trick us into taking a drink. Thirdly we get irritable or restless or bored, some get depressed. Anxiety creeps in for some. All these fall under spiritual malady. Most of medicated the condition using alcohol. But as we aged, our body also ages but the craving also goes up. So there is this obsession of the mind, coupled with the craving after we take a drink.
With some serious recently life issues I've hit a low and see that it is time to change.
I started drinking in my early teens and was able to do well in school, play sports, university grad, have a successful career. now in my 30s it's time to make a change after having a difficult situation open my eyes to the problem. I always knew I had a drinking problem, but would justify it or ignore it. There is difficulty stopping once past the limit, blackouts and hurting my loved ones. But I was always surrounding myself with people that would overlook it. It's not that I can't just have a few drinks, even go months without an incident but then the switch goes and it happens again. I don't crave alcohol overly or drinking everyday but I know that's there are varying forms of this battle. I have trouble saying no and worry what people will think about me, I've bottled up emotions and drinking was probably a way of dealing with this. I do feel hopeful for the future. Looking forward to learning about myself and seeing where things go. Ive never really tried to stop but I think I can.
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