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6 years ago 0 11215 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Bryan,

I can totally appreciate all the obstacles there are around stopping drinking. Society has normalized drinking and made it a standard "activity" for social events. It can be really tough getting away from that. I think moderation is a great goal. In order to achieve that I recommend abstaining for a period of time. I know it is challenging but it will make moderating more of a possibility. Any amount of time would be beneficial but I recommend 3 months of abstinence and then reassess at that point. The period of abstinence will help to reset your patterns. You will practice how to have a good time without alcohol, how to say no to people who offer alcohol, etc. You might even meet people who do not drink. The truth is there are more people in this world who do not drink then those who do drink.

I also recommend working in the program it will help prepare you with information.  How motivated are you to make this change? What are your reasons for doing this and reasons for staying the same? Having a pros and cons list of sorts can help to put things into perspective. 


Ashley, Health Educator
6 years ago 0 1009 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Sean,

Welcome to the site. Where about's in Ontario are you if you don't mind me asking? I'm in Ontario and have researched a variety of support resources.

All the best,

D
6 years ago 0 1 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
New to this group just wondering what helpful options are in Ontario for drinkers such as myself,
I have just recently moved. 
6 years ago 0 2 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Ashley,

Thank you for your reply. I am hoping to moderate, and cut down significantly. I however have found it hard to do so, My friends and the people that I hang around with binge drink heavily but unlike me they do not get aggressive and violent when they have too much to drink.

I find it's hard to completely abstain from alcohol in today's society without receiving judgement and backlash. It's such a accepted social activity that it's hard to completely block it out from your social life especially when you are young. However i recognize that me and alcohol can be an unpredictable concoction. 

Do you have any tips or guidance to try to moderate/decrease drinking.

Thank you,

Bryan

 


6 years ago 0 11215 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Welcome Bryan,

Thank you for being so honest about what you are going through. It sounds like you are taking accountability of how alcohol effects you. Scaring the people you love sounds like a very good reason to take control of your drinking. Have you attempted to stop or moderate in the past? What are you hoping to do now, moderate or completely abstain?

From what you wrote it sounds like alcohol effects you negatively when you binge drink. I would say eliminating binge drinking would be a necessary step. What are your thoughts?


Ashley, Health Educator
6 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bryan,
  See if you can relate to this:

But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink.

Here is a fellow who has been puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. He does absurd, incredible, tragic things while drinking. He is a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He is seldom mildly intoxicated. He is always more or less insanely drunk. His disposition while drinking resembles his normal nature but little. He may be one of the finest fellows in the world. Yet let him drink for a day, and he frequently becomes disgustingly, and even dangerously anti-social. He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept. He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly dishonest and selfish. He often possesses special abilities, skills, and aptitudes, and has a promising career ahead of him. He uses his gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees. He is the fellow who goes to bed so intoxicated he ought to sleep the clock around. Yet early next morning he searches madly for the bottle he misplace the night before. If he can afford it, he may have liquor concealed all over his house to be certain no one gets his entire supply away from him to throw down the wastepipe. As matters grow worse, he begins to use a combination of high-powered sedative and liquor to quiet his nerves so he can go to work. Then comes the day when he simply cannot make it and gets drunk all over again. Perhaps he goes to a doctor who gives him morphine or some sedative with which to taper off. Then he begins to appear at hospitals and sanitariums.

This is by no means a comprehensive picture of the true alcoholic, as our behavior patterns vary. But this description should identify him roughly.

6 years ago 0 2 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi there,

Since I started drinking in my late teens I have frequently become a violent and angry drunk too many times to count. I usually binge drink on the weekends and virtually don't drink during the week. 

Often times in the past I have drinken to excess and it results in me losing myself "flipping a switch" becoming a different person and becoming violent and aggressive. When this happens people become scared of me and I have embarassed myself. My drinking habits and behaviour have resulted in destroying a 5+ year long term relationship of mine and friendships as well. 

It has come to the point where I desperately need guidance and help in order to save the relationships/ friendships I still have. 

Any guidance and direction is very much appreciated.







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