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6 years ago 0 286 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Welcome Rosa,

For me, it took a time without alcohol to clearly see why I was drinking. That and the help of counselling.  It was a coping strategy that worked for a while to numb feelings that I had, until it escalated and became a problem of its own for me.  At first, I just focussed on staying away from alcohol and eventually I looked at the why.   It is still a journey in progress for sure but things are simpler to figure out without the added complications of alcohol. 
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Hi Rosa,

Some people do drink for coping and other people may drink for other reasons. For example, people may drink because they have associated it with a good time or a way to relax. In these cases it`s important to find other ways to have a good time and relax. It is also important to determine why you want to quit or moderate drinking. How is drinking impacting your life? Working through the program here may help you with some of the basics.

What are your thoughts?


Ashley, Health Educator
6 years ago 0 154 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Good morning all. Rosa, both Foxman and Suziecue offer good and concrete advice and encouragement because they themselves have been where you are at this time. I, too, have been and still am on a spiritual path to seek help from a source higher than myself. I have left that path on numerous occasions over the past 24 years, but God is loving and faithful and full of grace otherwise I would not be writing this comment. If I could humbly offer a couple points which may hopefully encourage you: 1) It is not a race to becoming totally abstinent or sober, and 2) When/if you happen to slip up, know that we all have as well. It matters not one iota whether it is once or 100 times. There will come a time and for each of us that time differs, but you are provided with the strength and willpower to overcome this disease. Until this day/time arrives, please do not beat yourself up mentally and feel guilty. How often have you seen, heard of or personally known of someone with heart disease or cancer doing this to themselves? Well Rosa, alcoholism is a disease too. I feel blessed to have been able to express myself on this forum without ever being judged...only encouraged. I most likely will come here over and over again to receive encouragement for myself or humbly and hopefully provide encouragement to others.
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The 12 steps of AA is about realizing the problem and then going inward. We make an inventory of our stuff that is bothering us. Like Resentments, fear, relationship issues. And then see what how those are consuming our energy. We spend phenomenal amount of time working our mind on imaginary stuff. The voice in the head Eckhart talks about. And we get frustrated.
 
And we look at the waste of time in each category and consciously work on side stepping each element.
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How can I face something when Ii have no clue what it is or how to dig it up???
 
Like you Dr Bob back in 1930s was spiritually grounded. He was part of a group called Oxford groups practices some basic tenets of christianity. But he was drunk everyday. Because he didn't realize he was alcoholic. The mind would come up with some excuse. Then can Bill W, who explained to him the alcoholics mind is the problem and also, when the alcoholic takes a drink, the drink takes over. Know that, Dr Bob then applied the principles of the spirituality he already was working on and got sober. The story goes on to say, he helped 5000 people before he died. 

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Maybe you do not drink for coping?  Some of us started drinking socially and found it makes us feel better generally, thus we keep doing it, then it gets more out of control that we would have ever thought.  I'm trying my best to make positive changes and cut down.  That's my goal.  Just make one small positive change.  Too many huge expectations sometimes set us up for failure.  Small bites...

Happy thoughts.  Suziecue
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I don't know why I drink.  What I read says it's a coping strategy that is for avoidance.  I don't know what I'm avoiding??? How do I figure that out on my own??  I have spent the last three years grounding myself and focusing on spirituality- yetmy drinking has rapidly increased. How can I face something when Ii have no clue what it is or how to dig it up???

I'm exasperated ??

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