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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

SPMW--I agree we cannot scorn people that have our same struggles because anyone can be just a day away from being an unlucky one. You are so correct.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

BJP--Looks like it's a great opportunity for you to share your experience and make a difference in the lives of others. They say no one understands addiction as does someone that has struggled with it. Things happen for a reason...

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 154

Good morning BJP and good morning to all,

BJP, it appears to me that you are called to be exactly that, a spiritual and addictions counselor. You have the heart, mind, soul and spirit to be one. If a young person or "kid saw something in me," she (or I'm not certain, you may have been referring to the young man in your opening paragraph) saw God. What I mean by this before I get labelled a religious fanatic, which I most emphatically am not, is that he or she saw the Spirit of God within your spirit, who abides within you. I do not mean physically saw, but readily acknowledged something, or better still someone or entity or energy force which could be of assistance and whom he or she could trust and turn to in times of trouble or need.

Keep up your vocation BJP, and work diligently as it appears you already do; you'd be amazed at the number of people whose lives you will touch in great and wondrous ways, because of the Spirit of the Lord who dwells within you! Be well my friend and fellow temporary sojourner on this planet we call earth.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

An 18 year old with a monitoring ankle bracelet started visiting CA four weeks ago. He is court mandated. Wrecked his car. Hasn't even reached legal age limit to do this kind of stuff. It took him about that time to eventually call me yesterday to sit with me to try to figure out the actual solution. I am glad that, even though the changes are slim, the courts mandate people into the 12 step programs. With little bit of luck and the kid being in desperate needs, it may work.

Looks like after he stopped, the internal conditions are coming out un-glued. The emotions running bit high. Just because he could be random drug checked, atleast he has that level of consciousness not to do something tragic.

Sometimes I wonder why some people hit a bottom and have the willingness to pursue a solution whatever it is but some keep doing it like this woman. There should have been some that would have approached her. Too much of resentments/fear blocking people to try something different? I always wonder. One more thing, when I was active in addiction, though I never stole, there were always people buying me drugs and alcohol. Perhaps cosmos had a plan for me to go down that route for me to realize and experience that and then rise from it. So I could be of use to others. Can't tell. But for now, I am just glad that kid saw something in me. Wish the kid good luck.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 54

The scary part for me is realising a lot of the people who end up down and out, or who die early from alcohol are not so different from me. They're not for the most part worse people per se. In many cases they're just the unlucky ones without whose example I wouldn't see what I'm headed for or what could happen to me, and I should feel pity for them, not scorn. In some cases the paths they've taken are different from mine, but only by a small margin. Or maybe I'm on the exact same path as them, just not quite as far down it yet... It's a fine line, a precarious position. There is no room for smugness on my part just because I'm not in their shoes yet.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

ND,

Thanks for the share. Unfortunately there are so many who are in this state. The situation is there are so many who don't realize they will end up there if the dont stop and transform. The pain-killer menace is so real can't even come up with an estimate how many are screwed. Recent death of the pop star took the world by surprise. Just 57 but cause of death was pain-killer over-dose. Just couple of days earlier they saw him cycling to the mall and back to his house. Its like the statutory waring on the Cigarette packet/cart. Does it stop people from smoking? Nope. Its going to happen to another but not me.

8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

Lately I have realized that there are more folks than I ever noticed that have a problem with drinking. Maybe it's just a function of the increase in ability to know about others lives due to social media etc. It just seems like every day I hear or see a new death from it. So it's been on my mind that we are really all just like a bottle away from an untimely accident or death from our friend booze. I just saw a new obit tonight and I know they died from alcohol. And this was startling---Just yesterday in driving to our downtown, I saw for the second time a lady that I know used to be high up in the social scene here. Well known, at every party dressed to the T and quite better than everyone else--- just ask her. And she was the queen of every drinking occasion. I saw her and She is standing on a street corner, smoking, in clothes I know aren't hers. None of her former friends around as she drinks from a brown paper bag a bottle of booze. It helps me to keep my own mind in check to live in a bit of fear of the darkness that is alcohol. Helps to fight an urge to know that might have been me in the obit or on the corner-- her husband divorced her because of it partially. Get this her life....she left her life behind to drink! She's not dead in body but, what a choice. I'm thankful I have made it to a good place. I am thankful for the help of my friends I've met through this site and for my family that stuck it out. We can all do it!! We have so much to live for. Life is better without booze. It just is.

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