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Hi Beni,

It takes a lot of courage to be as honest with yourself as you are being now. So in my mind that is already a big success. It also sounds like you know you need to heal from some past hurts in order to get control of alcohol. How are you currently trying to do this? What do you think may help?
 
 
 
 

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Hi Beni! I understand that you feel like you're being judged if you log in to the diary and admit you've drank. Perhaps if you look at it like this: you are the only one that sees your diary here, 2nd we've all been in the place you are no one is without problems that we have to find a way to manage or we would not be here! And 3rd we don't judge--& you shouldn't judge yourself. You wouldn't treat a good friend that was having a problem with the kind of harshness you're judging your own self with. Think of yourself as a friend. Treat yourself with kindness. Give yourself a break. A slip doesn't mean you knock out all the good you've done. It's a slip nothing more. 
10 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
It's hard.

It doesn't have to be. For me once I commenced to work the 12 steps, the obsession to drink was lifted and never came back. You can do it too. Just a simple step to go to a meeting and asking for help. Today I am free man, can walk anywhere in the world without the fear of taking a drink.
10 years ago 0 12 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi all.  I am back and looking to get myself on track again.  Stopped checking in every day.  Ducking responsibility and the promises I made to myself.  A couple of 'good' days in that time but mostly I didn't sign in to my diary because I was ashamed of what I'd have to record.  

Working on digging deeper and taking a hard look at what the emotional triggers were that threw me off.  I have been trying to unearth some of the 'junk' that I typically bottle up, dealing with grief from losses in my life that happened a year or more ago and working up the courage to reach out for more help in sorting through all of it.

Tough when you're used to being the one who 'keeps it all together'.  I realize that I haven't been.  I've been stuffing my emotions in a bottle (literally as well as figuratively).

I know I can make this change if I can deal with the real underlying causes and find my balance again.

It's hard.

Thank you all for being there.

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