My 21 year old step son has issues with filth and mess - he never seems comfortable with any clean or tidy part of a room. I have shared houses with people from all parts of the world, have even been a squater in London many years ago, but I have NEVER had to live in the middle of such filth. The draining board gets filled with dirty plates and cutlery (we do have a dish-washer, right next to the sink), rubbish is screwed up and left a foot or so away from the bin, God only wants to know why my kitchen scissors are no longer - taken to the bathroom and I don't even want to type what was left all over the bathroom floor! Food left around the house. Used condoms on the outside window ledge of his bedroom.
I have ME and Fibromialgia. Some days, just trying to hoover one room can leave me exhausted and in pain for hours, days or even weeks. When I feel like I am having the p#%& taken out of me, I get angry and, though working on it, would often be on a second bottle of wine by 9.30 am, with a bottle of spirits and a small case of beer to wash it down with!
I am getting on track with the cutting down on alcohol, but I still have anger issues, especially as this lad will not get any help for himself (I have tried for some years to get intervention, but I have no authority to do anything, so the law says!) and I feel helpless, frustrated and abused. Any one have suggestions?
