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10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Thanks Ashley,

I know exactly what caused my relapse in August - After 26 years of marriage, I finally asked my husband to move out. After a couple of turbulent week, I allowed him to come back "for the sake of the kids". The alcohol was a way of hiding my head in the sand and wallowing in shame and self pity. Recently, I have taken a much more assertive stand on decisions regarding our finances (a major problem in our marriage) and my husband agreed to sell his boat ( a huge drain on our finances). That's the day I stopped drinking. The big problem is that I know in my heart of hearts that he will likely not follow through and I need to find a way forward without losing all respect for myself. At the moment I have a big trip planned with my daughter in June and that is a big motivator for me to stay sober, but I know I need to come up with a real plan.

Thanks for welcoming me back. It means a lot to know that I will not be judged

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

Athena--welcome back! I think that having support and making friends on this site is super helpful. I haven't been on here as much as I used to be but, do find that it's SO helpful to help us stay out of a spiral of abuse to our bodies. I hope you will find support and peace here and can get back to the place you want to be. Congrat's on the 2 weeks! That's a big step.

TS---This is what I was talking about in my email. I love that you always give GREAT healthy advise and really constructive ideas for us to explore. Healthy eating and taking care of our bodies in general go hand in hand. I still have a problem cutting all the sugar out of my diet---darn Jolly Ranchers and Red Vines! But, I'm doing yoga every day and getting outside now to exercise and eating better for the most part and BOY O BOY what a difference.

I also agree in getting through social situations and personal situations without alcohol can help with the rewiring. Plus self forgivness and acceptance. Social situations can be overwhelming. I have that problem also---mine is a problem with self esteem more than shyness. But, that would make me want to avoid social situations or self medicate before or even after them. Getting support is huge. And Athena, you will feel better when you know that there are many others like you out there. You are not alone!

Take care everyone and my best to you all!

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Welcome back!

Glad to have you and congrats on passing two weeks. I am curious about the relapse in August. What do you think triggered it? What do you think you will do differently this time?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 345

Hi Athena,

A big welcome back! I too struggled with shyness and have all my life to the point of panic attacks in the past. I avoided all kinds of social situations and I know it held me back. That is why I was so happy to find this forum where I could seek support yet feel safe.

I have discovered that if I eat totally clean, no simple sugars, processed food, grains, dairy or red meat and concentrate on lots of greens and fruit that I have no cravings for alcohol whatsoever. But you have to be consistent. Make sure you get some exercise every day and try to ensure you have some quality quiet time to relax. A nice warm bath with Epsom's salt will do wonders as it contains magnesium which aids in sleep.

I know you've been really working hard at resolving your maladaptive relationship with alcohol and you need to give yourself a big hug for that. Just remember that every alcohol free day is a good day.

Keep with us!

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I am taking antabuse because I know it will keep me honest, but I need a place I can have some accountability.

Athena, welcome back. The drug antabuse does not remove the obsession to drink and I have seen a few in the fellowship consume while taking it and facing dyre consequences and personally lost my brother because of this. What we need is a solution to go through life without the need for any of these medicaitons.

Anywyas Camprol, Vivitrol are not life threatening but this one is may be you can consult your doctor. I will be cautious on Antibuse.

10 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

This forum was very helpful to me in the past. After relapsing last August, I am now clean since March 1st. I am taking antabuse because I know it will keep me honest, but I need a place I can have some accountability. I am painfully shy and find AA to be very intimidating and overwhelming but I know that if I don't reach out to others, I will not succeed.

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