Hi Annes,
Please do not feel bad about yourself. Life is hard, and we have more pressures and responsibilities than ever before. We are expected to be all things to all people and then when we try to deal with the stressors and end up over self-medicating we immediately beat ourselves up. I believe we end up this way because we are so desperate to zone out for a bit. Unfortunately sometimes it just gets away from us.
You’ll notice that I’ve been here for just over a year and it has been quite the struggle. But, I can tell you it has been worth it. I am finally to the point after many slips where I can actually have a few drinks with friends from time to time and stop. There is no way that I could have done that a year ago. I thought I would have to abstain forever especially when I tried to moderate the first few times.
I know things look overwhelming right now but know that it
is possible for some of us to moderate after an extended period of excessive
drinking. The biggest thing that
worked for me was training myself to be mindful of my thoughts and feelings. Dissect
the reason you want to drink especially if you’re alone. If it’s because you
want to zone out, you’ll recognize that as a red flag. When I do have a drink I
remind myself of what I’ve been through, how well I feel now and how I want to
keep it that way. Do remember that
to start you should try to abstain for about three months just to regroup. Coming here several times a day if possible and posting as much as you can will really help as well.
You can get control Annes, but it does take time, a ton of reading, possibly reinventing your eating and exercise habits and learning about other ways to deal with stress. Should you slip, take it in stride and try again. Denigrating yourself and being ashamed is simply counterproductive.
Glad you’re here!
TS