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9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 421

I'm so glad to hear that you're not giving in or giving up. Trying again is the right thing to do. Your wife is critical because she thinks that's helping you to stay off the booze. Its hard for others to understand. They think feel that it's motivating to be critical. It isn't. But, time will make it better. And you have to decide within yourself to make the change. "We drink because we drink" there is no more truthful quote. It is a circle. You will notice a change in your life if you give it a few days. Your family will respond to you differently. They will be at ease and they will be as proud of you as you will be. We get to choose to be a productive part of our family or fall into the bottle. You can do this! Keep your head up.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Unfortunately, I didn't make it past Friday.

I am trying again today. Life is very tense for me. I have three young boys at home and a wife who is very critical of me because of my stress. It all circles round in a terrible feedback loop: my home life stresses me right out, I drink, it makes things worse. Rinse and repeat ad infinitum.

Have to get off the roller coaster!!

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11215

Mukwah,

Great work. It sounds like you have been fast with a lot of challenges but you are holidn strong. How do you plan to celebrate on day 7? Perhaps you can plan something special with your wife?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi Mukwah,

When you find yourself in a situation like that it's best to get some space, like go out and find something to do that takes your focus on to something else. The first week is a withdrawal period and emotions are definitely magnified as your body processes all of the harmful additives/ toxins from your body. Stay focused on this week and getting past it. It's amazing how quickly our bodies will recover from this challenge.

All the best,

Dave

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

So on to Day 4.

Last night was kinda rough. Not so much in terms of urges, but with my wife. She was quite grumpy and seems indifferent to my attempts at sobriety. I'm not looking for any kudos, but an acknowledgement would be nice. She too is a problem drinker, although not as bad as me. She did not drink last night (maybe that explains her mood).

One thing I've found is that emotions are much stronger when you haven't deadened them with alcohol. This will take some getting used to.

One day at a time as they say.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

I agree...exercise does help a lot. I find myself swaying every night....drink or exercise. Exercise is winning! I always feel better after a good long walk and the thought of alcohol completely washes away.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 48

Keep strong! Good you're exercising. I find this helps me in the evenings.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Made it through Day 2.

Thanks Foxman--yes, I hear you on any excuse to drink. I know that routine very well--triumphs, tragedies and everything in between is a good time for booze.

I have rationalized my wife's wishes for her mother and of course I can understand. I will support her.

Day 3: Two kudzu tabs at breakfast, another two at lunch and I think I'll be okay. I feel great today and the bike ride in from work was a joy--not a hungover battle

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I drank for all reasons. I couldn't stay away from alcohol. I drank if it rained, if it was hot, bad day, good day, wife left, wife was with me, got a job, lost a job. Came to understand the powerlessness the book Alcoholics Anonymous talks about. I had to realized deep within that I can't drink anymore and then help came in the form of 12 steps. Hope you scoot up some courage and visit one of the local AA meetings and get hooked to the power so you can face the world without the help of any mind alterning substance.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

Day 2 of another kick at sobriety.

Yesterday went all right with the help of kudzu capsules--seems to help with cravings and keep my mind off heading to the liquor store for my standard half pint of vodka and two tall boys.

It's 2:30 at work. Just got back from tennis and am steeling myself for the early evenings with three rowdy boys--all under 11. Kudzu will help, as will my guitar. I will also take my eldest out for a walk since he needs to slim down.

I also just got off the phone with my wife who wants to bring her mother from Vancouver to Toronto to live. This is not welcome news...

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