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9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11215

Welcome MomofThree,

I am glad you found us. As you can see you are not alone in this. Start by reading through the program and searching the forums. The more information you can arm yourself with the better.

A question to get you started, how would your life be different (specifically) if you stopped drinking?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi MomofThree,

Welcome to the site. Good for you for giving up the smoking when you were going to have kids. It's stressful, especially when one of the substances alters your perceptions. It's pretty busy having small ones that age (I have 2 but they're grown and I remember it well). And 3 boys as well. It must be BUSY in your household. It's a wonder you have time to breath! And moving on top of that? Wow, that's a lot to process. It's pretty easy to understand why you would want to decompress and exert some control over your own time when you finally have a moment to yourself. Do you get much support from your other half (husband)? Any family nearby to rely on? You sound like a very driven and motivated person and you know what you need but you're a little de-railed at the moment and need to get back on track. The workouts are definitely a great idea. Trying to manage 3 little boys if you have hangover is a recipe for disaster. Please don't feel ashamed or alone though. You're definitely not alone and have nothing to feel ashamed about. You've got a lot on your plate right now and mom's definitely place a higher level of expectations on themselves than men when it comes to raising kids. I remember when mine were the same age as yours and sprinting after one while holding the other in one arm like a football. And the was on a good day! I'm surprised my wife didn't a vodka intravenous attached 24/7.

All will be good. Take some time for yourself.

Best regards,

Dave

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Thank You Junes...just logging in and reading the posts of other members and your comments on mine is making me feel better, I have somewhere to turn. I want to be here for others as much as I want to be here for myself.

I look forward to following everyone's progress

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 56

Hi Momofthree

thank you. Yes anything can be an addiction...I used to drink constantly always had to party 7 days a week. Now its different . I dont drink all the time but when i do i make up for lost time and self sabotage with stupid actions when i am drunk . I dont get it. i also binge eat too .

I cant explain why we dont focus on our positive things in life instead off self sabbotage and self medication I guess you can call it....I am trying to find out..maybe for me its always been easy? self pity? I dont know.

You have a very clear mind frame and you can see what is happening in your life which is good! Hopefully this site can help you really get to the goals you really want with the drinking etc....

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

22 days is great! I was not a drinker prior to this past year but still struggled with addictions for 14 years (people can say pot is not addictive...that's a lie...I felt the exact same urges for needing to be high as I do now for wanting to drink) I quit smoking and smoking pot when I found out I was pregnant with my first. After number 3 was born we moved (he was 7 months old)..that's pretty much when I started drinking. I sabotage myself too, I am a newborn and baby photographer...I LOVE my job but think part of me is so busy with 3 kids I have no outlets since its all kids...all the time. they go to bed...I drink...I need to take that mind frame and adjust my thoughts....I should be spending that time working on the things I love (photogrphy...crafting and creating). I was a personal trainer, I was in great shape before having kids, I love working out but am struggling to take off this 20lbs (I wonder why...binge drinking...eating stuff I wouldnt normally eat...) I see all the negatives...there are no good reasons for drinking so why do I do it...how do I shut this thinking off. I get the urge...as Im doing it or running to buy booze...in the back of my mind Im asking myself why...then shoving that thought away and continue to do what I hate myself for doing

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 56

Hi Momofthree

well you are here and that is great :) I am no expert all I can share is my own experiences and offer support :) i have been on this site on and off for many years . It is great . you can readd other peoples experiences and well maybe like myself you can relate... i do know that feeling of shame all too well....i am still feeling ashamed and its been 22 days since my last drink . I self sabotage myself and am now in the process of finding out why so i can learn to love myself and no longer do it.

this is a great place for support and motivation ! and recognizing you have an issue is the first step . :) there are great tools here for education and even a diary to help you stay focussed...

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3

Hi everyone,
I'm new to the site...looking for some sort of support...motivation...being able to talk to people who are or we're in the same position. I have no idea what happened this past year but I've fallen into a place I don't want to be. I have 3 amazing boys (5, 4 and 20 months) I drink..almost every night..not 1 or 2 drinks...much more. I don't understand why I'm doing it..I recognize that I have a problem...I'm sabotage myself , my goals. I've been looking for support groups online...I feel so alone in this and ashamed.

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