EvolutionHealth.care

Home
Main Forum
Managing Drinking
Health Educator's Corner
New Day

Advanced Search Form

New Day

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Sleeping has always been a problem when I have been AF, it is one of the reasons it took me so long to get here. Day 1 went well but in the past month have not had this much trouble sleeping being AF. But, all is good! I won't let it get me down. I am going to enjoy my cup of hot chocolate and know that tomorrow will be better.

Well wishes to everyone!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 59

Lynn, way to go!!! Abstaining today is a huge accomplishment. Sounds like you really put a lot of thought into your day. Be proud!!

Zoey, keep up the great work. The best is yet to come. I like the diary idea :)

Dave, you have incredible insight for all of us. Thanks!

Have a blessed evening!!

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Lynn way to go... You are doing awesome. The mind is a powerful thing. When we focus we can really do anything we want...

Sometimes I lose that focus.

As I said I overcame that 4 pm barrier. Today I admit was rough.

I have been keeping a diary when I look at it. It's seems to help. Did lots of gardening today. Drank lots of ice water..

Just thankful it's almost bedtime..

Tomorrow is a new day. I just keep in my mind. If I don't have the first one I won't have the last one...

Have a great evening all.

Zoey.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

The "deciding time" came and went and did not have any desire to take a drink. The day went rather smoothly. On my past AF days, they were not like this. I have no idea what the difference is but I'm not going to waste anytime questioning it. However, I will prepare for tomorrow to be different..."Prepare for the worst, hope for the best."

Dave, thank you for your response, you always seem to have just the right thing to say. I am not sure why I have not told my partner. Alcohol has never really been discussed between us. She is a "stand up for yourself" type of person so if I was doing ANYTHING that bothered her she would tell me. She is very supportive and would be involved as much or as little as I needed her to be. I guess I don't want her to know because I don't want to fail. As I write that it sounds really silly, it is not like I have not failed at something before.

If I can do this she will eventually not just notice but will say something. My response will be the truth, I am stopping (or slowing down) to be healthy. Regardless of if this works or not I will eventually be honest with her about how far my drinking has escalated, we have always been honest with each other and not saying anything is not being honest.

But for now, I am on Day 1 and made it through. I had many thoughts about the things that I could now do with my evenings that I could not do before because of drinking. Things look hopeful for now onto Day 2...

Zoey, how was your Day 2??

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1009

Hi Lynn,

You seem like your perspective is changing for the better regarding the drinking. You really deserve giving yourself the enjoy living without it.

Giving up alcohol partially or for shorter periods of time never worked for me. It would just progressively escalate until I was binge drinking all the time. The challenge with moderating on and off is we maintain the cycle and it seems to gather momentum and strengthen each time we re-start. You build up a tolerance for it and you learn to accept feeling really lousy, both physically and mentally. More importantly, you never give yourself the chance to resolve the drivers that are causing the drinking in the first place and, guaranteed, there are drivers. One thing that has become very apparent to me is that my drinking was in response to a lot of things that I need to sort out and I could never do that if I continue to consume alcohol. I didn't realize a lot of them until more recently, and now I'm very conscious about re-working them. It's very liberating and really makes all the difference. Question....is there a reason why you don't share your goal with your partner? Perhaps it's not necessary to share all of the details, just that you don't feel the drinking is working for you anymore and you would feel the need to stop.....Or do you not want to say anything because it will negate your choice to drink and draw attention to it if you do? They may be more aware of it than you realize.

I know you're going to sort this out Lynn. You're on the right track.

All the best,

Dave

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Lynn,

Non drinkers have lots of fun. They never seem to need the buzz. Most of our friends drink. You sound very positive

You got this. Good luck you are on the right path. Keep busy.

Support.

Zoey

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Jewel and Zoey,

Thank you for your support. I am still feeling positive about the day and feeling pretty free :) It is a good and different feeling. Not sure what the difference is today, maybe just tired of it all.

Zoey, my drink of choice is beer and vodka or rum. I have never been much if a wine drinker. And I am not sure why I drank more yesterday but it opened my eyes. We went out with friends the other night and watched the ones that do drink but on this night decided not to. I have seen them do this many times, I guess I just realized they were having just as much fun without alcohol (probably more) and really wanted to be able to do that. Hopefully we will get there Zoey!

Lynn

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 52

Good for you Lynn , you can do it.. It sure feels good to wake in the morning and know you didn't drink the day before..

May I ask why you drank more yesterday? Wine Is what you drink correct?

Lots of support friend.

Zoey.

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 59

Congrats on working toward your goal Lynn!! For myself, I had more anxiety over the thought of not drinking than actually not drinking. Please know we all support you, and are here for you. Let us know how you are progressing.

Support & Hope,

9 years ago 0 +0 / -0 348

Good morning everyone! I am not very happy with myself and a little scared of the direction I am headed. I drank yesterday, more than I can remember drinking and really don't feel that hungover today. My drinking has escalated which is what brought me here over a month ago. I have been a daily drinker for years but since coming onto this site I have had days of being AF but never many in a row. I know my body enjoys being AF even for a day but it is time for me to think about getting truly healthy.

At this point I do not think I can say I am giving it up completely right now (Jewel, don't know how you are doing it! Keep going!) but I am going to try for 4 days, something I have not done in at least 10 years. I do not want an out, I need to do this. When Friday arrives I plan to seriously think about drinking, really thinking about WHY I want the drink. Hopefully I will make the decision of not taking the drink.

Dave, if you are reading this I am trying to take the "positive" approach that I have read you suggesting so many times. Hopefully by me "seeing" myself AF for 4 days will get me through. Thanks for your help to the many people on this site.

It is odd, as I post I have a different feeling about today, the week. As many of you have read, it is the thoughts during the day of being AF that are the worse for me, but today is different. I actually am feeling good thinking about the freedom. That will probably taper off as it gets closer to my normal time of drinking, but for now I am good.

I know I will have support here today if I need it. Take you everyone! Let's have a good day :)

Lynn

Reading this thread:

today's top discussions:

This Month’s Leaders:

Most Supportive

Most Active

Most Loved

New Day