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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

Good morning everyone. I, too, had a stressful weekend. I probably had 3 beers over the course of yesterday afternoon, and half a glass of wine when I got home last night. Not quite a binge, but pretty darn close. Anyway, no time at all right now, but I just read all the posts and wanted to check in. Thanks for being here.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 7

Thank you for the welcomes. One day alcohol free, was a tough Sunday and glad I found this site or would not have done it. Thank you all. I'm determined to get control of this.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 161

Good to hear from you, Roy. Sounds like you are doing very well.

Welcome Simonalisa.

Marylizy, I'm glad you checked in. I've been thinking about you.

Fell off my goal a little too but I'm still here. I'm doing way better than I was before I became a MoGa.

Camiol, hoping good things for your interview.

Good week to everyone.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 45

Hey everyone,

I see I've missed a bit over the past week and a half or so. Things were going well for me, I had started a new full time position, as I wanted to get out of contracting for a while and have some more stability. However the one thing that I have had problems with in the past when I wanted to stop drinking was the fact I would "forget" about the problem and it would slowly creep up on me.

So at any rate, to say all of that I did have a slip up this past Friday. After a month of sobriety I can say that my tolerance level was definitely not where it was when I had first stopped drinking. I was upset with myself for caving in, but I got back on the horse yesterday and will start back again. Do I know what caused the slip up? Yes, it was the feeling of being in "control" and thinking I could do it successfully, but it didn't work out well because my body just doesn't seem to take well to it like it used to. I didn't completely just give in, I came to the site and read some of the posts to get my courage to say no. however it beat me this time, but I won't give up.

Thanks for the ear everyone and I hope that your weekend is going well. Oh and if there are any people here in Central Florida or anywhere in the path of Issac, be careful and stay safe!

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Simonalisa I also have an alcoholic mother, but she didn't keep it hidden. We are not speaking thses days, her refusal to see that she was a horrible mother and other issues we have between us has cut off any sort of relationship. I'm 46 years old and vowed to NEVER be like my mom. Well here I am struggling with the same damn addiction she has. I am not like her in personality or the people I choose to associate with thankfully. I consider her a loser. Sad but true. My father is a wonderful man who is the complete opposite to my mom and the divorced when I was 6 years old, no kidding, they were at opposite ends of the spectrum. At least he provided some stability for us. Anyway enough of my venting, I'm glad you found this discussion would be a good support of you. I am like you, I felt the shame, fear, guilt etc when I realized I'm an alcoholic. I do enjoy drinking too, I have fun and I find I laugh a lot. I love to laugh. My problem started 2-3 years ago, before that I rarely drank. I'm trying to get back to being an occasional drinker, it's been a battle, but I think in time I will be successful. I also believe that knowing I have a problem and not giving up on getting it under control is keeping me from going over the edge of allowing alcohol to completely control me.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 7

Vincenza, there is lots I can be doing instead of drinking, I know that. Just being on here is a good one. It would be great to quit completely, not sure I have the willpower yet to just cut back. Though, dinner with friends and one glass is great, and I can do that. Camiol, when I realized I had an addiction I felt scared, and ashamed, and fearful that I won't be able to stop because I do enjoy drinking.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 7

Thanks for all your replies, this is wonderful feeling I have people to talk to. When did it start, well when I was 16, am now 51. My parents drank, my Mom hid it a lot but we always knew. She eventually became reclusive and health issues, no longer with us. I am afraid I am like her in that way she hid it, though I am not reclusive (mostly) and am active physically. I can't really say when it first came to my realization that I am not able to stop it whenever I want to. I used to stop for weeks at a time to be sure I could. These days more like a couple of days. I can go out and be social, and be the designated driver, guess I'm more of a closet drinker. Triggers, just a stressful job and what I consider relaxing with a glass of wine to wind down the day, but I don't stop until the bottle is gone. I get up in the morning and vow to stop doing that, but these days it's a pattern. It's Sunday afternoon now, I've hung laundry out, read, gone rollerblading, gorgeous day to be on the deck reading with a glass of wine!

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi Simonalisa,

Welcome to the AHC community! As you can see, you've found a very supportive network to help you with your health goals. Is your goal to cut back the amount you drink or stop drinking completely?

What are your reasons for drinking at home at the end of the day? What other activities could you replace drinking with to keep you busy or pass the time?

Camiol - Wishing you good luck for your upcoming interview!!

Vincenza, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

That is fantastic Camiol....I will be saying a prayer for you...Keep us posted

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Oh ladies, forgot to tell you this. Remember that job I was so close to getting but they changed the requirements to be a bilingual position? Well, they contacted me on Friday to interview for another position! Fingers crossed this one will work out.

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