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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

HP that's wonderful that you made it two weeks without drinking. You deserve to be so proud of yourself. I am so hoping to get to that point someday in the very near future. Although I've only been a problem drinker for 3 years, I'm finding it very difficult to stop altogether. I guess dependence is dependence whether it's one year or 25 years right? I am taking Kudzu,which seems to be helping me with how much alcohol I consume, now I need to find the strength to quit.

How did you make out at your husbands party? Did you enjoy yourself?

Turquoise how are you doing? I hope all is well. Marylizy are things going well for you? I find the stress of this time of year can be hard to cope with. Between trying to get ready for Christmas and FINALLY reaching the end of the year long project at work, I am exhausted and wishing the rest of this year away. My one exciting event is the arrival of my new pointer puppy on or about January 12. We are very excited for him to come home.

Today I hope to finish my Christmas shopping. Wish me luck!

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 19

Hey Camiol, et al.

I can really relate to what you're saying about - having times when you don't drink or times when you seem to be able to drink moderately and they always fool me into thinking I can keep drinking and control it. After a period of time things always go haywire (at least for me). Still haven't found that elusive key to moderate drinking. I've decided to start thinking of myself as a "non-drinker" as of 2 weeks ago. I have managed to go 14 days without (my longest time that I can remember probably since I was a teen!) in spite of an unusually high level of stress due to some unusual circumstances, and the usual societal pressures at this time of year. Tonight is my husband's xmas party and boy would I like to let go, relax after a stressful week, and reward myself for all my good work not drinking these past two weeks, but I'M NOT GOING TO. I really need a lot of strength tonight. I have volunteered as D.D. so that should help, but it just makes me wonder - can I keep this up, day after day, for the rest of my life, through ups and downs and challenges and urges? I've always been suspicious of non-drinkers in the past. I'd much rather be a moderate drinker but I don't think I have it in me. Good luck as you try to wrap your head around the idea around the changes you want to make in the new year, and if anyone discovers the secret to moderate drinking, be sure to let me know. It was so much easier knowing there was a quick and easy way to get away from the stress and relax - working through it / actually experiencing it is a drag. I have turned to meditation - MUCH slower and more challenging than a bottle of wine, but way fewer regrets, for sure.

best of luck everyone,

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Welcome excessivemonthly.....I'm glad that you find our posts helpful. I can totally relate to the blackouts, they had become a lot more frequent for me in the recent months and I realized that drinking was a serious problem. I'm still battling the demon but I do have a lot more sober days now albeit the longest stretch has been 7 days. I hope that after the holidays I can make the life changing choice to stop altogether because I know for me, control isn't an option. Sure I can go a few days without any alcohol and I can also control my drinking at times, but none of it ever lasts. Feel free to chime in whenever you want, we love to hear from new members to gain more knowledge and coping skills from other members, and of course offer our support when you need it.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2

Hi all, I'm new here but I find comfort in reading all of your posts. I too am trying to cut back. Black outs, damaged relationship, falling a sleep at socials (weddings, work events, birthdays, etc.) have occurred to me, not all of the time but frequent enough. I know how hard this time of year is because I'm trying to maintain my limits yet it is so easy to let lose. Not for any other reason then I like to drink when times are good and right now times are good, except for the knowledge that my drinking has to slow down when I'm out. I think this is why I'm drawn to the MoGa. I love to have a drink because I'm usually happy but I hate to have a drink after a night of regretful behavior. I feel like Romeo when he realized Juliet was the daughter of his arch nemesis. It's one giant oxymoron. Clearly I'm an English teacher.

Anywho, good luck to all of you, I greatly appreciate the support I have gained from reading your posts.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

My best friend came over last night and we had wine. I drank more than I should have, but I didn't get really drunk, I was feeling it though. I am hoping that the new year will bring a new outlook and positive changes that will include an alcohol free life. I am mentally trying to prepare myself for the change and hoping that during the holiday season I can maintain control. I hope everyone is doing well.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Marylizy,

Take it a bit easier on yourself, you surely haven't let me down.

Keep your chin up

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

He is on his way down from Canada this weekend so should be seeing him soon..I am pledging not to drink today...I hope I can do it...Have a wonderful day everyone....

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Marylizy don't feel bad about the way things are right now. We all seem to go through rough patches. Last night was a rough patch for me. I hadn't spoke to my sister in 7 months and last night I decided to call her and talk to her about the many family issues we have going on. It was good to get things off my chest and tonight I feel a lot lighter....like a weight as been lifted. Unfortunately while talking to her for three hours on the phone, I kept pouring drinks. I ended up making three double shot cosmopolitans and a glass of wine. I wish I hadn't done that, but what's done is done and I can't take it away. We talked again today and we seem to have rekindled a relationship. I did make it very clear that I will not put up with anymore crap from her or my mom and that I'm tired of being the peacemaker. I feel I had a healing moment last night and waking up today regretting that I drank too much kind of diminished any good feelings I should have had this morning. I feel good that tonight I abstained and I am planning another night of abstinence tomorrow. Good night all.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 51

When I joined this group last september I had been a year drinking almost every night. With this site , reading how I am not alone (thanks everyone for sharing good and bad stuff) I have finally been able to say that in the last 28 days I have had only 2 glasses of wine...one glass on 2 separate nights.I don't keep anything in the house. I'm happy to check my diary and see this progress.

However, I still feel I am 'white knuckling it'. I look forward to this weekend because there is a xmas supper where I will have some wine. It's not a 'natural' feeling for me to not have a drink. I also plan on doing some social drinking over the holidays, I know this will be a big test on wether or not I can drink in moderation. I worry about it.

Thanks everyone....as a group you have been a great help, each in your own way...

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

You don't have to answer me but did you go on that date?

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