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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

:) Happy New Year everyone...here's to having a life we can always be proud of, without (or with less) alcohol:) I'm so excited to actually be able to call my mom tonight at midnight, I'm ususally way too drunk to do that. And no hangover on New Year's Day, that used to be unheard of...:)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Good for you Marylizy....I will be starting a new life addiction free right alongside you. I will also check in frequently, we can support each other in this journey. I look forward to the change and living a life free from addiction. Together we can do this.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Happy New Year Camiol and enjoy your dinner and virgin cocktails. I am not going out as I just am not in the party mode. I have 1 beer left of what I bought the other day and will enjoy that and then be ready to start the new year addiction free. Recovery from the life I knew to a new life free of addiction and open to all that life has to offer, throw at me or what ever else comes my way. I am really ready to be free and begin to enjoy a life that is not lived in the shadow of alcohol. Good luck to all of you out there. I will be checking in and posting frequently in order to keep myself honest and in touch with all out you....

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Thank you ladies for your kindness and support, I truly appreciate it. I do feel that hearing those words was a real eye opener for me. I know one person's hurtful words are not everyone's opinion, but I have to wonder how many people see me as a drunk. It makes me wonder if that's how my husband and BFF see me, and I really don't want my young daughter to view me as a drunk in a few years. I don't want her to be disgusted or resent me when shes old enough to suffer the consequences of an alcoholic parent like I did, and still do because of my mom.

I think that this has reinforced my decision to get sober and live my life in a healthy, happy manner. I need to get it through my thick skull that I can get through the stresses in life without wine, and life doesn't become boring when there is no alcohol. I lived most of my adult life without alcohol and I was quite happy. I can do this and be me again.

I am going out for New Years dinner tonight with my husband and we are taking our daughter with us. I am going to try to celebrate the end of 2012 by drinking sparkling water and a virgin cocktail. I am going to offer to drive so my husband can have a drink and I will have to stay sober. I abstained the last two evenings and I am planning to go forward in life by continuing to abstain. Happy New Year my friends.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Mizzy is right,

People who only see us occasionnaly and during ''celebration'' event may think of us as drunk but at the same time, they don't know, they only see an image. Your pain reminded me of an event. I had a very nice uncle and he became a drunk, almost homeless and during a Holiday party, I drank too much also and told him in his face HE was just a drunk now and wasting all his talent, his intelligence, etc. Who was I to tell him that? He commited suicide less than a year after. Maybe this is what my loved ones are thinking about me now?? especially since I tried to commit suicide 2 months ago. This is making so sad. It just brought back that memory of him and maybe I abandoned him,,,

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 112

I agree Camiol, and I whole-heartedly relate to being seen as a "drunk", unfortunately our actions have made others who don't know us very well see us this way. However, those who are LUCKY enough to have gotten to know us personally know that we are much more than this, and they can compartmentalize our drunk selves from our real selves, and they see our problem and don't pass judgment. At least that's how I feel. We have the opportunity to let our real selves shine through soberly, which is an amazing thing, and we are STRONG because of our knowledge of ourselves and our drinking problems. Not everyone gets to this point who has a problem, whatever it be, they just conintue living a half-hearted life with the knowledge that they are being extremely self-distructive yet they choose not to act on that. Not to mention, EVERYBODY has faults, whatever they may be, drinking, being overly judgmental, etc., and those who judge people so quickly are probably having trouble dealing with their own faults and want to showcase other people's to compensate. Just saying:)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Hi Camiol

First, I am sorry you are sick and ashamed but please do not let others define you...you know yourself who you are and what you are going through. Others just like to put labels on us and maybe can not face their own demons. Any way, just use this as a point to maybe make some changes but please do not beat your self up over this. You are strong and able to get through this as you have so many other adverse things in your path. Just stay the strong woman you have been and do what you need to do to take care of Camiol....Happy New Year...

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

PJ I'm sorry to see that you're leaving us. I feel the same as the rest of the gang in hoping you will check in once in a while to let us know how you're doing.

I think I may have hit an all time low and it's been bothering me in a big way. Friday night my husband, daughter and I met with my best friend's sister and her husband and their daughter for dinner. We had to sit at the bar while we waited for our table. We started to talk about my best friend's new boyfriend and how he is more likable than her ex. She then said that the ex didn't like me and my husband. I was shocked because we always had a fun time with him. Anyway I said that I was always nice to him and he and my husband always got along very well. So she proceeds to tell me how he's a very judgmental person and has nothing nice to say about anyone, then she told me that he has called me a drunk. I was devastated at that very moment and shocked. I never thought that people saw me that way. To hear that I am viewed as a drunk really was a low point in my life. It makes me very sad and embarrassed. If he sees me that way, how many other people see me as a drunk?

This has opened my eyes and made me realize that I am out of control. Even when I think I'm in control, I'm not. I feel sick and ashamed of myself. I can't stop hearing the words "you're just a drunk", it plays over and over in my head. This has been one hell of a wake up call. It has reinforced my decision to stop. It's funny because Friday while I was at work I grabbed an information card for our EAP program, I am seriously considering getting some counseling, then the same night I find out that I'm viewed in such a negative manner. Maybe things are starting to turn around for me? My life needs to change in a big way. It's time to get back to me.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

PJ I too am sorry you are leaving us as you had so much to contribute. I hope you will post in now and then and let us know how you are doing. We will miss you.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 51

Sorrry to hear you are leaving us PJ. Wish you luck .....

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