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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Morning everyone

PJ those are some very smart words...I think I really understand what you mean about how people are expecting you to be a certain way and when you change sometimes they do not want to accept it even if it is a better you....We all have to be true to ourselves in the end. Find the balance that makes us happy with ourselves and not always try to please others...I have been doing well...My new friend came for dinner last night and I had 2 cocktails...that was enough and I did not even crave a third. I think the fact that I am happy is what is making the difference for me. I am not trying to drown myself in alcohol to cover up the pain and loneliness..so it is all good. He is picking me up on the bike this morning to go for a short ride and breakfast before he has to open his business at noon....You all have a wonderful Sunday and give thanks for all your blessings.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Today I'm bursting with excitement because this Thursday my new little puppy is finally coming home barring any delays with flights. I'm praying for good weather, Toronto Pearson tends to cancel flights if it's a bit snowy. Please everyone keep your fingers crossed that Thursday is a nice calm weather day so my little boy can come home.

PJ I have to agree with you, we are all a lot less boring when we're sober. I know for me when I drink I am funny and goofy, but it doesn't last very long because I end up passing out. I just wish that alone would make me stop drinking for good. I'm pleased that I'm doing a lot better, but I'd still like to be even more in control or stop altogether.

I did abstain last night and kept myself very busy doing my nails. That's about a two hour job because I put acrylic overlay on my nails to keep them strong. It's great to wake up without the fog of alcohol from the night before.

Marylizy did you end up going out again last night? It seems this gentleman is quite interested in you if he wants to see you every night since your first date. I think it's great, and wish the best for you.

Turquoise I haven't seen any posts from you lately, I hope everything is ok.

I'm hoping to do some shopping today and make a nice dinner for tonight. Sundays are the day I like to cook a very nice meal for us. I will check back later and wish all of you a great day.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Saddie,

I find when I'm sober I'm absolutely less boring then ever.

When I am sober, I'm friendly I don't have anxiety and the paranoia diminishes. Quiet frankly from my own drinking journey, you're less fun when you're drunk. I speak only from my own experience. I still have a hell of a lot of work to do, but I'm actually living my 2013 the way I expected. I'm not sucked into the bottle, but I am starting to do things for myself. I just know what direction I am going (I definitely was stuck in some heavy rose thorn bush pathces) but I found my way out :)

I'm gaining a lot of happiness in myself. I'm beginning to understand what living is about :)

(when I was desperat, I drank cooking wine, the most revolting and absolute horrible decision, craving get the best of you. I guess.

Saddie, there is another thing I have learned.

If you have been a certain way for a duration, people adapt to it. Once you start to change it punches people back, and they want the old role. I speak from my own experience. Change is scary for some people

but remember

"The only constant is change"

you will be even more witty sober "_

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Good for you marylizy, "love is in the air, everywhere I look around, love is in the air, every sight and every sound...."

Have a great time. I hope for the best!

Your Pal,

- PjH

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Morning Mogas

Camiol, you had some wine but did not get drunk.It was spaced out during the evening so I would consider that very good social drinking on a Friday evening with family and friends. That is our goal, right? So sounds like you are doing great...Sadie, I doubt you will be boring sober as you sound like an enthusiastic woman who loves life. Keep up your good work. I had a great time last night. We danced a lot, drank some beer, socialized with another couple who joined us and all in all it was such a great time. It has been a long time since I have had a man actually court me...flowers, card, etc...it is very flattering but also overwhelming if you know what I mean...I know he wants to see me again tonight and am considering it...will keep you posted...Have a wonderful day my friends...

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Good morning everyone....I hope you are all having a great weekend. I'm doing ok, but last night I drank more than I should have. I didn't get really drunk, but I was feeling it. I had a glass of red wine when I got home from work, then my husband and I went for dinner where I had a Caesar and a glass of white wine. We stopped at a friends house and I had two glasses of wine there and another glass when I got home because my BFF and her boyfriend came by for a visit. This morning I'm wishing I had more control last night but it's too late for that and today is another day and I'm hoping I'll abstain for the rest of the weekend.

Marylizy how did your second date go last night? Did you enjoy yourself?

Saddle good for you for abstaining again last night. How do you remain so strong when your husband is drinking wine? I can hold strong when I'm abstaining if my husband has a beer or mixed drink, but if he was a wine drinker I'd fail miserably because wine is my big weakness. Thankfully he's not a wine drinker...lol.

Well I am heading out for an early morning of shopping. I will check in later. Enjoy your day my friends.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 72

Hi Everyone,

Well, it is Friday night, nearly bedtime and I have made it without drinking! Marylizy thank you for being so encouraging. about my not drinking. Sounds like you are doing well and having fun. I made a new recipe tonight and it called for one half cup of white wine. I knew if I brought any home I would drink it and leave it out of the recipe! So....I bought cooking wine and believe me I wouldn't drink it! Thank goodness I don't like it, otherwise I would have finished off the bottle by now. My husband was drinking his wine tonight and I am going to have to be careful because he likes for me to have a glass with him. My problem is I don't stop at one. He had three tonight but who's counting!!!! I think he decided I was boring and just went to bed. Well, I am sticking to my goal and he is a wonderful husband so I am sure he will understand. I guess sober is boring if you are drinking. Hmmmmm................don't guess I've been boring very often in my life! Maybe my conversation isn't as witty as it is after a few glasses of wine. Oh well! Hope everyone has a good safe night.

Saddie

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Hi Gang,

Thanks for your concerns, Skyler seems to be doing alright. This blood build up seems to be draining slowly. I felt bad when the groomers told me, because I always scratch behind his ears and never noticed anything.

He's in good spirits. Friendly hyper active dog for 11 years.

I wanted to briefly post something about myself. I don't have a problem making aquintances, but I have a hard time meeting "friends" I have some solid friends, but not completely near me. I sometimes feel like I'm so different, that I just don't fit it. At work I do my job well, and educate myself daily. My Dad just tells me I completely overthink everything, which I do sometimes, but I don't bother people with it. I over think, because I look at multiple angles in every situation etc. I'm not sure, I like to read a lot and I have learned quite a bit.. Everytime I hear "I over think" it makes me feel like I'm not welcome, but I crack jokes and have a great time all the time, so it's conflicting for me. I know I can't fit in with the part crowd, I'm on this site for a reason. I've been definitely controlling my drinking these days, I have set a few goals that may seem simple to others, but to me I want to maintain. I know if I was drinking heavy I would neglect them. First one, which I know everyone does, but keeping the bathroom spotless every single morning. I have been making sure I get to work on time, I have been eating a bit more these days, and I am going to work dressed well. I have even been making sure my bed is made every morning (yes I know these seem like simple ordinary things, but not things I used to do).

I'm going in for some tattoos tomorrow. One piece is to finish off an emotional creative piece I had done after my car accident in 2006, and then when my girlfriend left (for good reasons for sure) but I never wanted to finish it, but now that I have faced closure I would like to finish it. I have also presented another idea to the artist and he drew it up quite well. I will be in the studio for about 5.5 hours. One is the thigh, the other is the calve.

I am looking forward to it.

I may have posted this before, but I thought of this on Jan 6th 2013

"Strength is only with those, who embrace weakness"

Much Love

- PjH

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 557

Good for you Maryliz. Have fun

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Actually Camiol, we are going dancing tonight...will keep you posted. Have a safe weekend..

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