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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hello camiol,

I am sorry to hear that you are not doing so great this week. It is good that you are recognizing the pattern of falling into your old habit. Get right back on track with your abstinence.

You said it yourself: forge ahead and stay strong! What will you do differently this time?

Samantha, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hello all....I'm not doing so great this week. After two weeks of abstinence I fear I may be falling into my old habit. I had a few glasses of wine last night and today I'm feeling disappointed in myself. I admit I was drunk and I regret it today. I am going to start abstaining again today and try to beat the two week mark.

Turquoise I'm glad that you feel the therapy is helping you. It's great that you have no desire to drink.....I'm hoping that my desire will diminish after a couple days of sobriety. It wasn't easy last time, but I was able to do it, so I'll forge ahead again and hopefully stay strong.

Marylizy great to hear from you. How did the birthday party go? Was he surprised? It sounds like you're doing great.

Well I'm going to the hospital shortly for an MRI. Hope it shows what's been going on with me neurologically and praying its not MS. Have a great day everyone, I'll check in later.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hello Turquoise,

It is good to hear that you are seeing a cognitive behavioural therapist. I hope that you find it helpful to complement seeing your therapist with the use of the alcohol help center.

Continue to stay strong and push forward.

Samantha, Health Educator

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Hi Everyone

It has been quite some time since I have checked in. All is well...I am not abstaining but am trying to limit my self to 3 drinks. It has been working pretty well. I just keep telling myself how much better I will feel physically and mentally in the morning if I am not hung over and beating my self up for getting drunk. Planning a surprise 65th birthday for my man this evening. Have been having fun getting the balloons, cake and decorations ready. Hope you all have a great weekend and sounds like we are all on a good track.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

I am now seeing a CBT (cognitive behavioral therapist) once a week, and I'm hopeful that this will help me find some control. I've seen her twice so far, and it seems like it's going in a productive direction. I also haven't had any urges to drink at all since Sunday, so that's good.Tomorrow I'm getting a massage!

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Turquoise I'm glad to see you're back. How was your trip? I too haven't been abstaining but I'm certainly not drinking much either. I had two beer a week ago, then my BFF came over Tuesday night and I did drink a bit too much wine, probably half a litre, then two beer last night. I totally agree with you about abstinence, it's very hard. I also want to abstain but then I get torn between abstinence and the relaxation of having a couple drinks. It's so very frustrating isn't it?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

Believe it or not, since I decided on abstinence, I haven't been abstinent! Surprise, surprise. But I have been drinking very moderately, only 5 or 6 drinks total in the month of April so far. I still want to make abstinence my goal, but it's so hard! And my husband is finally admitting that he's got a problem with it too. He drove home last night after 4 pints of good beer and was really bummed with himself. It's the first time he's ever admitted that his drinking might be a problem, which I think will help me. I've been really good at staying out of his drinking, so that it never becomes an issue between us, but that has also been hard. Is everyone else doing okay?

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Wondering where all my friends have gone. I hope everyone is doing ok. I miss reading posts from everyone. I'm 11 days sober now and today will be day 12. I am struggling with making it through tomorrow evening though. I have to attend a birthday party at a local eatery and everyone will be having drinks I'm sure. I'd love to enjoy a glass of wine and I'm feeling torn because one part of me knows it'll be a mistake if I drink and I'll so regret it Saturday morning, but the other side wants to say "screw it, I'm having wine." I keep bouncing back and forth telling myself I'm going to have a glass of wine, and then I change my mind and say it's a mistake if I do. I hate feeling torn.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 234

Hi All,

I think a lot of us must of felt guilt due to our actions (I'm no doctor but I would imagine if you don't feel guilt that may be a bad thing.) I feel guilt due to my anger, I was mad at modified posts. I understood all legalities. After 22 years, I finally snapped. I mean I have (******) myself before. This was full out rage. I was really mad at the people living with their noses high to the sky and living with a world of perfection. I don't/and will never comprehend the need to put someone else down to make yourself feel better.

Why wouldn't you want to lift them up? There is a band called 'explosions in the sky', very instrumental band, have a few albums. They have an album called "the earth is not a cold dead place". I guess sometimes I (as I can't speak for anyone else) Life is about what you make it, what you want to do about it. I will not down play depression as I have had it my entire life, but when you watch your little nephew (3) go on a easter egg hunt, you can't help but smile.

Thank you for the "Anonymous" moderator, I really don't feel like I've touched anyone. Thank you for the compliment.

Keep trucking AHC, I broke a few knuclkes in my anger, but caught up with an ex ball player. Maybe playing this year, definitely coaching.

- PjH

(What are we really mad about)

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Turquoise I am sorry that your having a difficult time with stress, insomnia and anxiety. I can relate to the stress and insomnia. I had panic attacks as a teenager but it's been a long time since I've had one. I remember all too well how they feel and I hope that you find something that helps to ease the attacks. I had counselling which helped a lot, I never had medication for them. My sister suffered with severe attacks for years and somehow she was able to overcome them. I actually asked her recently if she still has them, she told me only in rare cases will she have an episode.

Thank you to both you and Matthew for making me see that I really didn't mess up. Sheesh the guilt of having that splash of wine made me feel just about as guilty as I do when I wake up the next day from a drunken night. Now to get through today. It's my daughters birthday and she is having my niece and her best friend come for a sleepover. We are going to take them out for dinner and a movie. Again I'll need to find the strength to get through dinner at a restaurant without ordering a drink. I will have to order either a club soda and cranberry or a mocktail. I hope you have a wonderful visit with your brother. It was a great idea for your husband to tell him you're both on the wagon right now, this way he has no expectations of partying tonight.

PJ great to see you posting again, and Turquoise is right, no need to feel guilty about expressing yourself here. Well I use get my day started, I hope everyone has a great day. I too will post later if I have a rough moment.

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