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11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 51

Hello everybody,

unfortunately yesterday was a huge failure for me.

I started to drink in the noon till night and once more I realized that I should not drink at all.

My brother and his family came yesterday to make a surprise for to me for my birthday, they are staying with us now. I am terribly hangover ..will login again later

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hi BP.....I am not letting my obsession with alcohol take over me. I had three cocktails this evening, and I didn't allow myself to have anymore. I'm conflicted about just controlling my intake or totally abstaining. I know it's been quite a while since I drank too much on a weeknight....that was something that was getting out of control. My weekend drinking is still in need of serious control.

Turquoise I also feel nervous about the job too. I'm so hopeful, but at the same time I know theres a chance someone may interview better than me. I'm praying for this to work out, but I know everything happens for a reason.

Ok I have to log off....my daughter needs me. Good night all.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 80

Hi monicaholiday, let's together learn not to think about the past, let us thinking something else for tomorrow. I can read that your past experience was not good, let gone be by gone. We are here to support each other to have a btter tomorrow -- alcohol free, at least only a be social drinker. Let us aim at this and walk through the path together.

I have been a very heary drinker, I drunk at least 200ml of brandy every night for the past 2 and a half year. Now I decided I am going to stop it. No one could make that decision except myself so I am going to do it and not thinking anything in the past. I hope you could free yourself from your past and be happy everyday.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 80

Hi Camiol, Hang in there. See, I decided to have 'brandy free' at home, I haven't had a sip for 5 days, and I know I can control myself not to have it. I always brainwash myself "brandy is not good to my brain. I supposed to be a very smart woman, don't spoil it by my own self".

You know, people always say that: You, yourself is your greatest enemy! So Camiol, don't let the craving to control you. You have to control what you want to control.

I find totally quit is tough to the heavy drinker for example like me, so I decided to have 1 glass of red wine if I really want to have some 'alcohol' in my body, but I have control it not to have more than 1 1/2, and that is. If I still want to have more, I will immediately jump into bed and cover myself with blanket, close my eyes and counting 1, 2, 3, 4, 5....... pretty childish, umh, but it works.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

Pearl, you are an amazingly strong woman. Monica, that is also true of you. It sounds like you have both been through difficulties worse than anything I am currently dealing with. Both of you -- your strength is so impressive, it helps me keep things in perspective.

Monica, a huge congratulations to you on making it through yesterday and remembering all the reasons why you needed to. How many days have you been sober now? One day at a time.....

Pearl, your English is absolutely good enough to get your thoughts across. I admire you so much for doing to, when I know it's even harder than normal. I lived for a couple of years in a place where English was not spoken, so I know how hard it can be to communicate difficult thoughts and emotions in another language. And you've gone another night Brandy-free! Wow -- good for you!

Hope, Happy Birthday. May you have a wonderful day, including the possibility of drinking responsibly. It is possible!

And Camiol, it's funny how I am almost nervous to know if you get the job. It sounds like such a perfect opportunity for you - I really can't wait to hear.

I looked at some of the resources from the depression center link, and today I am going to work on keeping my problems in perspective, and deep breathing. Whenever I feel overwhelmed or exhausted, I am going to focus on breathing. When my kids are bombarding me, I will breathe first, then respond.

Thank you Ashley, for following our thread and offering so much support. I am so glad I have found this website. Ooh - I'm getting all emotional again. Breathe.....

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 80

Hi Turqouise,

Thanks for your information. I finally discovered last night since had insomnia and sweating again. I wanted to have a sip of brandy, of course, nothing at homw. So I decided to get up and went back to the site and searched for the information. I got it, so I have posted my profile, but I cannot upload any photo since I always take pis in high resolution. Will try tonight at home. Oops, time off now.

thanks and see you all ladies tonight

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 409

Everyone, Thanks for all the support. I will look at the depression stuff. Pearl, I wanted to tell you that if you go to the "Alcohol Help Center" home page and scroll all the way to the bottom, there is a link called FAQ, which stands for "frequently asked questions." I got instructions about adding an image from that page.

How do I add an image (avatar) to my posts and profile?

To add an image (avatar) to your profile and posts, log in to your account. Once logged in, click on the Forums page. Above the discussion forums, on the right hand side of the page, you will see four hyperlinks. Click on the Support Group Options link. Here you can upload a picture using the Browse button. This button allows you to search for a picture saved to your computer. The picture you choose must be smaller than 50KB. Be sure to select Yes to the statement “Show your picture icon”. Lastly, click the Submit my Changes button to ensure the changes are saved.

How do I change my signature, occupation and hobbies?

Log in to your account using your email address and password. Once logged in, click on the Forums page. Above the discussion forums, on the right hand side of the page, you will see four hyperlinks. Click on the Support Group Options link. Here you can edit your information. Click the Submit my Changes button to ensure the changes are saved.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 616

Hey Turquoise....I know how you're feeling and maybe you felt this way too when you quit smoking? After about a month of not smoking, I got pretty depressed and emotional. I hated everything and everyone. I felt like I lost my best friend. I could cry at the drop of a hat. Maybe going through the change with abstinence is a similar reaction? I'm sure it will pass in time. We're all here to support you and hopefully cheer you up. You are doing so incredibly great, 18 days is amazing and I'm proud of you. I am still in my daily struggle to abstain and I'm finding it especially tough lately. I don't know what's going on with me. I was filled with determination a couple weeks ago and now I'm just in an "oh well, I'll quit later" kind of mode. What the heck is going on with me?

Thank you Monica for the well wishes on my prospective job. I'm really hoping it works out. I suppose my odds are as good as anyone elses.

Well its time to head back to the office to finish off my last work day of the week. Later girls.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 36

...and Camiol, congratulations on the interview. I sure you were amazing. What a sad thing for your husband, that is so often how opiate addiction starts. I know how hard it is to rebuilt trust in relationships, hopefully as you build confidence within yourself, you will also gain confidence in you marriage. Good for you for moderating you drinking, it so hard in the summer. I will be thinking of you this week and sending 'hire Camiol' energy to you (hopefully) future employers.

I fared fine on the holiday. I went for a walk in this wonderful neighborhood near my home, where every house looks like it is out of a magazine. I was a little sad, watching people and their friends and families BBQing and drinking and laughing-but I just kept reminding myself that it always starts that way. It is always fun at the begining. Of the last five 4th of July holidays I have ended up in Detox twice, got tear gassed in a riot, and got 22 stitches down the middle of my face. All I have to do is stare at the scar on my face to remember how much 'fun' I had on these big drinking holidays. Plus, by dark, while I sat on the couch with my partner and my cat watching documentaries all I could hear out the window were M-80's, gunshots, helicopters and sirens. Whoo-hooo what fun.

11 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Hi everyone!
Camiol, congrats on the interview. Be sure to update us on what happens. Your husband does sound like a very strong man and he overcame a very difficult addiction - impressive. I wonder what advice he has to share about overcoming addiction?

Turquoise, what you are feeling is completely normal. In addition to all the chemical changes in your body your mind is also playing a big role in this. You have learned to associate alcohol as a reward and as fun and now that you no longer have that it can be a bit depressing.

Let me give a quick lesson on negative core beliefs. Core beliefs are beliefs we have formed at a young age. They are learned and engrained. They are the lens in which we see the world through. They can be difficult to change. For example, the belief " I am lovable" is a healthy core belief. Negative core beliefs are learned and engrained but they are negative and influence the way we think, feel and behave negatively. You are now trying to change one of your negative core beliefs to the more positive "Sober is a good thing, I can learn to have fun without alcohol". It sounds logical but you are right it may seem abstract or foreign to you right now because this belief is the opposite of the negative core belief you have had for years. The good news is you can challenge this old belief and replace it with the new belief but it is certainly not easy. It takes time and practice. With perseverance it does get easier though. Each time you have fun without alcohol, each time you enjoy being sober and think positively about it you are reinforcing this new belief. You may want to check out depressioncenter.net. This program has a lot of information on negative core beliefs and how to challenge and then change them. Specifically sessions 8 and 9.

Many people who have issues with alcohol also have issues with depression so it is a good idea to check out the site if you are interested.

Take care,
Ashley, Health Educator

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