Hi Ashley,
I'm glad I checked in tonight. I almost didn't. This forum helps keep me focussed. I think I need some short, quick things that I can say to myself - or stick up on the wall - that can help me to stop thinking so much and remind me to trust in the descision that I have made, rather than continually second-guessing myself. My thoughts are spinning all the time, and all I am doing is cluttering up my head and probably avoiding dealing with my feelings. So, as you suggested - I am going to sit with my fears...
I am afraid of being "found out" - either as an alchoholic or as the not-so-competent-as-I-appear-to-be person that I am.
I am afraid that I won't be able to repair all the damage I have done to my relationships with my husband.
I am afraid that my family may be better off without me - that I'm not needed.
I'm afraid of disappointing people.
I am very afraid that if I stop drinking, I will replace it with bulimia again
I am afraid that if I allow myself to really feel the anger and pain and loneliness and sadness, I will feel even worse, I'll lose control of myself, I will somehow lose the ability to fake it.
I am afraid that if I go into treatment - I will fail - and if I fail - I will be out of options.
Hepsie, thank you for your insightful comments. And for simply accepting that when I say I am struggling - that it is true. This idea of the alcohol whispering to me is useful I think. Usually I think of it as my own thoughts tricking me and I find it really un-nerving not to be able to trust my own thoughts. So whenever I am craving or beginning to rationalize that I'll be fine if I just have one drink - I'll try to think of it as the alcohol talking - not me.
Hepsie